Consider additional recommendations for parents, give examples of what you do not need to tell children, and what is needed in a given situation, and also learn what to do if you kidnapped your child or another family member.
Additional recommendations for parents
Take care of your child's own data bank. Because in our time, very often kidnapped children, moreover, the child can just get lost or lost. More often photograph their children, and at full height and close-up. If possible, remove it from the video. Forensics say that it would be good to have a lock of children's hair, fingerprints and a preserved shred of baby's shirt. In emergency situations, this can prove to be very useful.
Do not allow children to walk with precious things and valuables (expensive clothes, mp3 players, gold jewelry).
In some schools and courtyard companies, it is very often possible to extort money - this is a demand for money with various threats. If such violators are not punished, then this leads to disastrous results. If you notice that the child has stopped going out on the street, he is afraid to do it, or skips classes at school, talk to the child in a good way, he should trust you and tell you why he behaves, maybe someone threatens him. Tell me that if he does not hide anything from his mother and father, then it will be possible to correct everything. Moreover, if it turns out that your child has something that extorts, immediately contact the police, they must take measures.
Children should be able to properly close the door and from the inside, from the outside, teach him how to properly carry pocket money and keys. Say that never and no one on your behalf should come to your apartment with a child to give away a bag, some thing, stay overnight and so on. The kid should never let people into the house.
We bring up the child in such a way that adults are always right. Therefore, to protect the crumb from collision with robbers, maniacs, delinquents, rapists and others, teach the kids:
- Refuse to communicate with strangers. If they start offering something, then the child must say "No!" And leave at the same moment.
- Never give in to the persuasion of strangers, even if they call a child by name and offer golden mountains. Not all senior are right. Only relatives, parents and close friends of the family need to obey. If the child sees that the stranger is following him, let him boldly approach the passers-by and ask him to help and protect him. Your task is to teach the child to do it.
- Do not go anywhere with strangers, it does not matter whether it's a company of young boys or adult muzhiks.
- Never ride in an elevator with strangers.
- Under no pretense to sit down in someone else's house.
- Never take presents and gifts from relatives until the mother or father gives consent. English and American schools provide such situations in advance, so they specially play with children and teachers. Taketi more confidently can avoid contact with criminals. Once in our schools it is not instituted, try to teach this kids themselves. In English schools, children are offered games with different situations and a set of glasses, if the child correctly finds a way out of the situation, then he is encouraged and praised. For example, what will you do if an unknown aunt says that she will show a beautiful puppy, if you go with her? How will you behave if any one offers to drive you on an expensive and beautiful car? What will you do if someone says that he knows your mother, now goes to her work, and proposes to go with him, and your mother did not call you and warned about it? Such games will necessarily lead to a good result.
- Do not go out when it's dark and not walk, where mom can not see you from the window.
- The child must avoid the vacant lots, landings, ravines, cellars, deserted places, sheds of abandoned houses.
- Never yourself go to any trips without the knowledge of the parents.
- Whatever the situation is, immediately zhesoobshchit about this to relatives or parents.
When teaching your child safety rules, never scare him. So you will not be able to learn it to navigate in critical situations, moreover, even once provoke a negative development of the conflict. Phrases that frighten a child can not teach a child how to behave properly in case of danger. Do not intimidate the child so that the offenders can be everywhere, so he can generally be afraid to go out of the house. In addition, you can disrupt the child's psyche, and also leave a negative trace on the child's further development. You must teach the crumb to be careful and considerate, not a coward and panic. Experts say:
What to say is unnecessary ...
- You can be kidnapped.
- Do not you dare talk to strangers.
- Around the same psyche.
- Now you can not trust anyone.
- Children should not walk in the park, it's dangerous.
How to speak ...
- If you see that someone has approached you, then ...
- You will be all right, if ...
- Unfamiliar faces need to behave like this ...
- Many people are trustworthy, but ...
- You can be helped ...
Without fail, tell junior teachers and kindergarten teachers that they do not send their children home with strangers until you provide a written request.
Children should be able to defend themselves. To protect yourself, a child can violate all prohibitions and transgress the boundaries. A child should not think about what will happen if he takes advantage of the methods of self-defense. Tell the child that if he can somehow harm the offender, then no one will scold him, but on the contrary, praise him. Tell the child where the most vulnerable places (eyeballs, larynx, and groin) are always available, and if possible, teach them how to strike correctly in these places. Moreover, explain to the child where he needs to seek help and where to run if there is a danger.
What to do if your child or a loved one is kidnapped and blackmailed?
To begin with, you need to make sure that the hostage is alive and it's okay. If you do not believe the blackmailer, try to get a conversation with a child or a close person on the phone, moreover, try to ensure that the hostage talked to the swami live, and not provide a voice recording. When you talk to the person who is in a hurry, calm him down and say that you do everything to be released as soon as possible. Explain that in this situation a child (a close person) must fulfill all the criminal's requirements, otherwise he can do harm. Do not even think about finding out where the kidnappers are-this should be done by professionals and this can harm your close person.
When you talk with the child (a close friend), listen carefully to the blackmailer. Assess the situation, the demands of the terrorist and how high the threat is. In any case, try to convince the perpetrator of the postponement (repeated call, re-meeting).
If you think that you need help, then act very quickly. Experts will need a lot of time to develop and implement the operation. Do not need any initiative, clearly and strictly try to fulfill all the requirements of the special services (from a conversation with a blackmailer on the phone to the hostage exchange tactics).
If you do not ask for help and act independently, then demand that there is nothing wrong with the child (money, values, information, exchange occurs only when the child is delivered to a safe place that is under your supervision). Otherwise, there is a risk that, after obtaining the desired, the terrorists will kill the hostage in order to get rid of the missing witness.
When you transfer values, prepare for the fact that the blackmailers can act unexpectedly. Whatever it is, try to make an exchange and not for a second leave in the company of criminals.