Stage one. Doubts.
Once you broke up, you still do not believe in the reality of what happened, especially if the initiator of the break was not you. It seems that this "point" is not a dot at all, and not even an exclamation point, but merely a question mark or even an ellipsis. You notice that the world has not collapsed, but there is something missing in it: smells, light, hugs before bed. But the saddest thing is that the memory, the acute sense of lack of something important make you cry. True, even tears can not rain forever, it takes several days or weeks, and you calm down. More precisely, you think so.
At this stage, girls are prone to look up holes for especially tearful films, twist the same disc with "our song", seize the candy with a mountain. Then comes the idea to look for pluses in your solitude and there comes a strong desire to change. Reason and experience say that changes within us can not happen in a second, but the heart does not want to listen to common sense. So on our heads there are strange hairdos, and in the closet new blouses and dresses that can be worn only for a holiday in a crazy house. Then we think about the fact that you can not be alone all your life. And then we are trapped by another mistake.
Stage two. Wedge wedge.
You suddenly remember that you once liked a neighbor, a colleague, a common acquaintance, and you begin to take actions aimed at winning the heart of a new man. This is the worst thing you can do in this situation. In fact, very rarely women are morally ready to start a new relationship, barely breaking up with the old, especially if the separation was painful. Any man seems to be a savior who will eclipse his grief, comfort, fall in love with himself and help to forget his grievances. In fact, everything turns out to be completely wrong.
By itself, your new boyfriend can be quite a nice and nice guy, but you will not see his merits. You will constantly compare him and your ex, and the comparison will not be in favor of the new man. You still remember that, another smell, voice, habits, you still love, and a strange man is just another. In the end, at best you just disappear from the life of a man who gave hope, and at worst you will mourn, say a lot of nasty things to him, which you will later regret. Therefore, do not rush to seek love, while your heart is still warm.
Stage three. Attempts to make peace.
Then you realize that you really do not need anyone except Him. But he does not call, does not write, and is rumored to have a great time without you. At this point, it may seem that even pride should be ignored for the sake of one - the only call that can give a new chance to your relationship.
Even if you call, it is not a fact that he will be happy. His voice can upset you with indifference, irritation, guilt. Men are not at all ready to see those who have recently left, especially if they left voluntarily. They experience not only relief, but also blame for their deed, and your calls will constantly remind him of what he did badly.
Rarely such conversations end in something good. You call on the pretext that you just want to know how to do it or pick up a forgotten thing. Then you ask provocative questions, you try to learn something about his personal life, then you accuse and demand. He angrily throws up the phone, having hissed something insulting, and you cry again and swear to yourself never to call again.
In fact, the period of recovery rarely passes so quickly. In order to speed up the process, do not make these mistakes, so you will save strength and nerves. Try to get away from the experience, change the habitual way of life, discover something new, but do not rush to make novels. As soon as you understand that you have stopped comparing all and all with your ex, that you do not want to call or take revenge anymore, you will be ready for a new love that will necessarily eclipse the old one.