How stress affects sex

About the benefits of sex they write a lot: increases immunity, relieves pain, fatigue, helps to fight stress, but ... in this battle, sex, alas, often suffers annoying defeat.

First, let's define the terminology: what about stress? (About what sex is, questions, we hope not). The very word stress in English means "stroke, pressure, pressure." External circumstances or internal problems are pressured in the literal sense - and the body reacts with all sorts of psychological and physical disabilities. Sleep and appetite disorders, or, on the contrary, drowsiness and desire to eat candy boxes, tearfulness, anxiety, irritability, or, conversely, inhibition - all these are reactions to stressful situations. And as a rule, under stress most people, unfortunately, do not have sex. But about 9% of the population still try to solve stressful situations just with its help. How successful is the statistician's silence. It is better to test by experience.
However, it is interesting that the "good" stress caused by turbulent positive emotions only increases the amount of sex hormones, therefore, sex positively influences. "Bad" also brings a lot of problems in sexual relations, but in men and women they manifest themselves in different ways. So, sex therapy of stress.

If the stress of a man

What's happening?
Most men keep problems inside. They do not talk for hours on the phone about experiences, do not pour out tension in hysterics, and save in themselves the whole load of unresolved problems. Therefore, when a man in a stressful situation, he is even more locked in himself. Any inquiries or intrusive attention only irritate him. As for sex, there are two possible ways of developing the situation.

If the stress is not tight and not too deep, it can temporarily even increase the attraction: according to experts, male sexuality is subconsciously connected with aggression, a desire to win, win, exercise its power and authority. But unfortunately, physical relaxation does not always coincide with a moral discharge, and if the cause of stress is deeper than fatigue and a hard day at work, it will not facilitate such sex. Moreover, it can get crumpled and cause an additional disorder.

The second variant of development of a situation - indifference to the partner, depression of an inclination and even a problem with an erection. In this case, the man becomes even more locked in himself and begins to avoid the partner, so that he is not caught in insolvency, refer to fatigue and a large amount of work.

How to behave?
Fight, of course, first and foremost with the cause of stress, and not with the investigation. As for the intimate itself, the partner needs to show a maximum of tact and patience. Any reproaches or, worse, jokes, taunts, although perhaps the tongue itches unbearably, are inappropriate. After all, he needs support and confirmation of his importance, and not vice versa.

If a man does not show initiative in bed, then new red lingerie with lace, candles and striptease, most likely, to nothing. Such a call will only cause fear of possible fiasco or irritation. As an incentive much better unobtrusive options - a delicious dinner with aphrodisiacs, massage. And most importantly: a loved one should feel that he is valued not only in the context of bed relations.

If the stress of a woman
What's happening?
Unlike men, women are used to splashing out their experiences outside. But about the aggravation of sexual desire is out of the question, most of all in a stressful situation, the fair sex representatives need rest, peace and tenderness. Tactile contact - hugs, gentle caress and care at such times are simply necessary. But if a man takes a need for caress for the desire for rapid and immediate sex, problems and grievances are possible, because in this case there is a misunderstanding. As a result, a man can feel rejected and unwanted, take on her own account all of her experiences (due to natural egocentricity), shut up, get offended or even burn out at all in accusations of lack of partner temperament and in general ... Of course, all this does not contribute neither harmony in relations, nor overcoming a stressful situation. However, a gentle lover depending on the situation, of course, is able to switch the attention of the partner and her experiences to love.

How to behave?
Do not force yourself to have sex, only to not offend a loved one, it will not bring joy to you or him. After such a concession, a woman will seem to be used, a man will feel displeasure with himself, because he will feel that he did not give pleasure to the partner. Therefore, it is better to say softly: "No, another time", than then lie down silently and take offense at the partner for incoherence and inattention. If the only thing you want after a hard day - take a hot bath and go to bed, allow yourself to relax and rest. The main thing - try to explain to your beloved that it's not in him, but in your experiences. And be sure to provide a guide to action, clear and concrete, without hints: "I need you to just hug me and listen."

If the stressful situation is protracted and any thought about sex immediately causes rejection, you should try to change the inner mood. We also know that the main companion of stress is physical fatigue. Try to rest and get some sleep, and maybe soon in the bedroom you will want not only a healthy sleep.

Try to create a romantic atmosphere: the taste comes with eating, and perhaps by taking the initiative first, you yourself want to continue.

And of course, when the stress is left behind and everything comes back to normal, do not forget about regular anti-stress prevention. After all, sex, if not always can serve as a full-fledged cure for stress, then as a preventive remedy is simply magnificent! He gives complete physical relaxation and relaxation, raises the mood and gives self-confidence. Do it as often as possible, when everything is fine, and then you will easily come out the winner from any stressful situation.