There is no doubt that this is necessary.
At least in order to protect his offspring from alcohol and drugs. At first glance, this sounds strange, but there really is a connection between the inner culture of man and addictions. Thus, English scientists, having interviewed more than a thousand people, found out that among fans of classical music, only 1.5% of respondents "are friends with a bottle". While 24% of fans of hip-hop and electronic music abuse alcohol, drugs and change sexual partners, like gloves. However, this is not an opening. Even the ancient Chinese philosopher Xun Tzu wrote: "When the music is empty and vicious, the people are dismissed and lazy, wild and worthy of contempt." The same can be said about empty books, movies, games ... Therefore, if you wish the child a better future, begin the process of "acculturation" urgently!
"Murka" or "The Nutcracker"?
Of course, we'll have to start with ourselves. You can fill up the apartment with books on art, while you yourself watch "Dom-2"; you can forbid the child to put elbows on the table, and you lick the plate after eating; you can include the child classics, and you yourself listen to the chanson - be sure: the child will not believe your words, but your behavior. And then copy it. It is no coincidence that many children of actors, writers and artists admit that parents did not specially "acculturize" them - they always had smart books in the house, interesting guests came and beautiful music sounded. By the way, about music. Scientists have proved that already on the 18-20th week of pregnancy a child is able to perceive music. Especially melodic, for example the works of Mozart and Vivaldi. Therefore, if you have plans to give birth to another baby, instill in him a good musical taste even before his birth. However, if you were late with the "pregnant" training, everything is not lost. Include children with different music - not only children's songs, but also classics, jazz, folklore. The main thing is that it's quality music, not cheap consumer goods, which are played on all channels. Experts advise to start with jazz - it is easier to perceive, and only then you can listen to classics. Ask the child what feelings the tag or other piece of music in it causes. What does this work mean, otherwise the offspring will fall asleep from boredom. You're not looking for a hidden meaning in the nightingale's singing - just enjoying the magic trills. To the child has not lost interest in unusual music, turn it on for a short while. To begin with, three to five minutes will suffice. Then it will have a desire to listen to it again. Encourage the child to invent their own music. To do this, you can buy in the children's world a whole "orchestra", starting from the pipes and drums and ending with a synthesizer. Your child will surely enjoy experimenting with sound. Write down the heir to the music school. Do not be afraid that he will not remain strong in mathematics.
Just the opposite!
Swiss and Austrian scientists have proved that music lessons help to quickly learn the exact sciences and foreign languages. And American researchers came to the conclusion that playing musical instruments helps 4-7-year-old children, lagging behind in development, catch up with peers in reading and overtake in mathematics.
Touching hands is allowed
The child will quickly "overgrow" with good taste and manners, if you read a lot. Only not teenage magazines, romance novels and cheap detectives, but real literature. Accustom to reading literally from the cradle. Let the baby not only have rattles, but also books that can be touched, chewed and even taken to the bath (now a lot of books are sold that do not deform from water or sharp children's teeth) - your child will get used to the fact that books accompany him everywhere. Read more yourself. If a little man often sees his mom and dad with a book in his hands, his hand will also be drawn to the book, not to the bank with the beer. Read the child before going to bed - it's not only kids who like it, but also younger schoolchildren. If a son or daughter hates books, which is not uncommon in the transition years, come up with a system of incentives. For example, for the fact that the teenager began to read more, allow him to walk for an hour and sit at the computer. Many will object - it is impossible to instill a love of reading in this way. Yes, at first, the child will have to overcome itself, but it will certainly go down in taste. It is important only to select books by age. So, a 10-year-old child will never understand "Crime and Punishment", but "The Adventures of Tom Sawyer" will appreciate. An excellent option - audiobooks. The child can listen to them, for example, on the way to the cottage or at bedtime. Less accessible, but no less effective way of "acculturation" - going to theaters, exhibitions and museums. To chad it was fun, choose what he really interested. For example, children usually moan from anguish in museums, because there nothing can be touched by hands. However, there are museums to which this rule does not apply. And the excursions themselves are much more creative than the standard scheme. "The famous poet was born in such and such a year, died in such and such, and lived in this house then". In addition, do not try to bypass the entire museum at a time, especially if it is large. For example, if you came to an art museum, choose one room or show the children some pictures that he likes for sure. The same applies to theaters. Go three times a week for children's performances - bust. Let each trip to the theater become a holiday. If you have a more difficult task - to turn a teenager into an inveterate theater-goer, who sits with pleasure in front of the TV or wanders around the street, at first select youth theaters. Children are usually impressed by the intimacy and the special atmosphere that reigns there. Well, then you can introduce them to the classics. It is not for nothing that it is considered that the regular attendance of the theater can be equated with the highest humanitarian education.
Could not you be more polite?
Suppose you manage to correct the taste of your child, and it will no longer be enthusiastically "dragged" from the techno or primitive cartoon. But over good manners have to work extra. Now a lot of books on etiquette, designed for any age, are published (for the youngest there are cartoons in which it is told how to behave at a party, at a table, in transport, etc.). Older children can attend a school of good manners (the lessons there usually take place on weekends, so this does not interfere with basic schooling), where they learn elegance, elegance and simplicity of communication (not to be confused with familiarity). Well, the basics of etiquette you will have to lay yourself. The first commandment is to memorize the names of the interlocutors. Another Roosevelt said that this is the surest way to win the favor of others. The second commandment: do not forget to greet others. Three, four-year-old gangbang can already explain who to call "you", and who - exclusively to "you." A six-month - to stretch the handle at the word "hello" and wave it goodbye. If you do not teach the child the basics of politeness at a tender age, then "at the output" you will get a sullen teenager, barking under his nose a displeased "hello" in response to a greeting of acquaintances. The third commandment is to take gender into account. The boy should know that in the room you need to remove the hat, that girls and women need to be passed forward and that the mother will be grateful if he gives her hand when exiting the bus or holds the door in the store (it's better if all this is demonstrated daily to the father's son , and not drawn uncle in a book on etiquette). The girl is taught to gratefully accept the help of the stronger sex when, for example, a classmate offers her to carry a heavy briefcase or help put on a coat. And further. Be sure to make a discount on age. Children up to three years can not learn anything specially: if all the household members are courteous to each other, the baby will absorb the "magic words" in the truest sense of the word along with the mother's milk. The preschooler loves the game, so instead of boring moralizing, think of a fairy tale in which you can play different scenes, for example, that you can not call anyone, scream, break other people's toys, etc. The junior high school student is an ambitious being. He can be given a "medal" for every polite deed. The medal can be anything from ice cream to wands. Daddies, understand the case, there is no need - they just throw out.
About taste-with taste
Most parents teach children table-cloth etiquette: for example, that during dinner you can not be distracted by a TV or mobile phone. But the good taste with respect to food, alas, is not so inculcated, so children eat everything they want: chips, hot dogs, hamburgers ... Meanwhile, even in America, "turned" on fast food, now in fashion healthy eating. And in many countries of the European Union is celebrated the Day of Healthy Food, when the chefs of famous restaurants prepare delicious dishes for children from the simplest foods. The purpose of the action is to convince the children that a dinner prepared with their own hands is much tastier and more useful than ready-made sandwiches. And let our children are not so fed by fast food and half-finished products, as in the West, why not arrange a Healthy Food Festival in your home? After all, who, as not the mother, will tell the child what exactly the good products differ from the bad ones, and the good gastronomic taste - from the bad.