Do you know Barbara Cher? This is a well-known motivational writer - the author of the bestseller "Dreaming is not harmful" - a book that has been translated into 20 languages and has been on the bestseller list for 35 years. Although the fate of the Barbara is hard to envy.
She left early with two children in her arms, worked as a waitress for 7 years to feed her family. All this time she had long and hard to go to her dream - she wrote books and helped people. The first book of Barbara came out when she was 45 years old. Since then, Barbara has helped a million people around the world find their vocation. And we have chosen for you several tips from Barbara's books on how to do this.
Feline method
So, where to start looking for your calling? Since you need to relax. "Sometimes we are too strained to find our destination, because it seems to us that it will be necessary to make a choice for life. And then our desire becomes so important for us that we absolutely can not budge, "- writes Barbara Cher in the book" Dreaming is not harmful. "
And imagine what would happen if you had many lives, like a cat? Let's say five. How would you dispose of them? Take a leaflet and a notebook right now and write the headline "5 lives." And now think: you have five lives, and every life you can spend on a certain matter. What will it be? Let's say you got such a list: TV presenter, ecologist, dancer, teacher and veterinarian. What does it mean? This list shows what areas really inspire you. This does not mean that you have to work in all these directions. Something from this list can become, for example, a hobby. Let's say you can become a TV presenter of an environmental transfer or a travel journalist. At the same time in your free time you can always dance and help animals. To realize the desire to become a "teacher" is also simple: you can speak to people and talk about different countries. Be sure to do this exercise, and you will understand which way to go.
It's not work, it's hell!
In the book "What to Dream" Barbara offers an exercise called "Infernal work". Now let's think about what kind of work you hate. "Very often people can not say what kind of work can become paradise for them. But they know very well what they do not want. That is why the method from the opposite to me very much appeals, "- says Barbara. How to do it? So, write down all the most horrible aspects that your hellish work may have. For example, "I'm sitting in a small, stuffy room, without windows. For days on end, I make paper records that nobody wants, which have no influence whatsoever. My boss is the son of the general director. He's hypocritical and stupid. My colleagues only and can, what to discuss subjects of who with whom has spent night and where to make a manicure with pastes ». Done? Excellent! And now let's turn this description over to understand what you want. Most likely, it will be like this: "I want to work in a spacious room, it's better even if it's a home office. I want to do some useful things, to be useful to the world. It is important that my colleagues and boss are educated and developed people. "
What is the key concept here? "Useful things". Let's think about what "useful things" mean to you. Write a list of professions that you think make them. Do not look at patterns and stereotypes, because, perhaps, in this case doctors and firemen will come to mind, but, perhaps, for you this makes no sense. If you think that the most useful things writers do, it means that this is where you should go.
Scanners or a diver?
And another interesting piece from the book by Barbara Cher "I refuse to choose." Barbara divides people into two types: scanners and divers. Scanners are those who can not stop only on one thing, and loves to study the world in all its diversity. And divers are those who are immersed in one thing with their heads.
Famous scanners: Goethe, Aristotle, Mikhail Lomonosov, Benjamin Franklin, Leonardo da Vinci. "They were all geniuses, and each of them excelled not only in one sphere. And who told you that you have to choose only one sphere? In our diving world, scanners have to be very difficult, because they are forced to "decide", - Barbara writes. Are you also trying to make yourself defined? Do not listen to anyone! Take a few spheres at once and make your way to the dream! Do all the things that inspire you even for 15 minutes a day, and you will see that you realize yourself in many of them! All three books of Barbara Cher - "Dreaming is not harmful," "What to dream about," and "Refuse to choose" will give you a complete answer about your destiny.