Everyone will like you
Many people can not exercise their will power and character because they are afraid to offend and offend others. Of course, nobody wants to do painfully close, but in such people, this attitude is spread absolutely at all and in any situation. For example, a person was not allowed to change in a minibus, but he would not talk about it, so as not to offend the driver, he did not find it bad. In fact, this behavior becomes a direct consequence of children's complexes. If the children were not liked by their peers, he constantly tried to please them and tried not to do anything that could cause the children negative. That is why, when they become adults, such people continue to use this model of behavior, even though it is fundamentally wrong. If you understand that you can not show your character and do not express an opinion simply because you do not want to offend others, then you should immediately change your attitude to the situation.
First, vanykto does not immediately scream and swear. For example, if you were not given a change, you can safely remind the driver about it, and not throw it at him. Remember that each of us has our own responsibilities and if you do not do them well enough, then you can complain. Accordingly, you have the same right and in relation to other people. Tembolee, if a person is adequate and normal, he will never take your request for a challenge or insult. Well, in the case when you start a load in response, remember one thing: it's not you that's bad, it's your opponent that's bad.
In situations where a person understands that he is guilty of something, but everything begins to attack, his behavior speaks only of internal complexes that he could not overcome, and now he is asserting himself at the expense of other people. Moreover, do not forget that people can not be from us vvostorge twenty-four hours a day. Even the closest people from time to time get angry and annoyed, but we do not perceive it so close to the heart, because we know about their negative sides. But with other people, we forget about it. So, instead of lowering yourself in your own eyes and with any crooked glance at you to believe that bad are the right ones, think about your opponents. If the driver of the minibus starts to raise the Navas voice, it means that he, first of all, is angry with himself. And by the way, he does not necessarily have to be a bad person. Perhaps it was just that it turned out to be unsuccessful or something else went wrong in his life. This man can understand in his own way, but, in no case is it necessary because of his personal problems to start in something to blame himself, to be hammered into a corner and try to somehow justify this person. After all, whatever it was, he still has no right to be frank with a completely different person, who asked him a very relevant and correct question. If you are guided by this kind of logic in any situation of this kind, then in time you will realize that you have ceased to constantly mumble and timidly lower your eyes. In time, you will learn not to be afraid of someone else's opinion, because it is really someone else's and no one can and should not be all in a row.
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Very often people are afraid of something extra to discourage, so as not to lose a close and dear person. And when you need to show your character, roughly speaking, to bang the fist on the table, the person pauses and pretends that he agrees with everything. In such a situation, one can say unequivocally only one thing: if a person reacts negatively to your manifestation of character, then, with him, something is wrong. In this situation, people who do not want to show character are afraid of either anger or a grudge. Both are both abnormal. If your loved one or just a close person is started from a half-turn, after hearing a hint of criticism, then it simply has some problems with the psyche. Complex people like to suppress those who are weaker. And the weaker, often, are the lovers. That's why such a person tries constantly to show his character, while at the same time completely refusing to show the character of the second person. If you understand that in your case the situation develops precisely, you must learn to step over yourself and defend your opinion. The fact is that by suppressing you, a person more and more feels in his hands the power over your life. And the ability to feel it can even be given to people with an adequate psyche and a perception of the world. In our case, a person is a manipulator and a tyrant. Therefore, if it finds full power, then it will be extremely difficult for you to escape from it, or even impossible. So you need to immediately begin to defend your opinion and look at the reaction of the person. If he reacts quite adequately and does not begin to fall into aggression because of your behavior, perhaps, by his actions he provoked you a manifestation of character and now in the soul rejoices at the results he received. But in the case when a person begins to get furious, literally rushes to you , screams that he will leave you and generally live with this light, if you do not shut up, you should seriously think about what this relationship will lead to. Take it, never be afraid to tell a loved one what you think. fuck, means, the relationship has no future. And it does not matter, you were afraid of aggression or resentment on his part. The inability to perceive criticism and the constant desire to take offense at all are not the vital moments that can help the relationships between people to be strengthened and developed.
In fact, we are not allowed to manifest a character: either our own, or those who surround us and play an important role in our life. Therefore, you should never say that you are a characterless person who can not change anything. In fact, everything is in your hands. Therefore, always try to remember that normal relations are built on the truth. A good friend, a loving person, a normal parent will always say what he thinks and criticizes where necessary. In the end, an adequate and sane person will calmly accept criticism and will not fall into hysterics. So never be afraid to express your opinion and do as you see fit. If you see an inadequate reaction to your behavior, always remember that the problem lies in these people, not in you.