For example, the love stories of Napoleon Bonaparte and Josephine Beauharnais, older than their crowned lover and wife for 7 years, Diana de Poitiers and Henry II, the difference between them was 20 years. Many star couples can be found among Hollywood stars - Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, handsome actor Antonio Banderas and his wife Melanie Griffith, and Russian stars often combine fates with women much and not so much older.
However, despite this trend, usually in a couple of women younger than their chosen one. Moreover, many women do not dare to start relationships with men, younger themselves by age. There are many reasons for this - fear that a guy will be windy and frivolous, that eventually he will get drunk, go to another, imposed by society stereotypes, girlfriends advice not to waste energy on the "young green", etc.
In fairness, it's worth noting that many men are also afraid of older women. Do not know how to approach them, how to attract the attention of their adult passions. In this article, we will try to help those who are overwhelmed by feelings for older girls, and answer the question - how to like a girl who is older than you?
The barrier of communication between people can easily be overcome with the help of a good joke and friendly conversation. Especially, women, as you know, love ears. So keep a few fresh anecdotes (just not vulgar ones), and in general try to be an interesting conversationalist. In principle, the older girl is practically no different from other female representatives. Of course, it can be more restrained compared to your peers, more serious and responsible, more experienced, including in bedmaking, and, as often noted by men, more interesting in communication. The latter, by the way, often plays a decisive role in choosing a companion of life. These girls meaningfully approach life and clearly know what they want from her. However, this is more generalization, and you need to find out the psychological portrait of the object of your feelings yourself.
So, how do you like a girl who is older than you? Generally, women usually love mature men - in the best sense of the word. Try to be more calm in action, get rid of youthful impulsiveness (although some girls like this feature very much), convince the girl that your feelings for her are deep and she really takes a special place in your heart. Remember, any woman, regardless of age, dreams of being unique and unique. No conversations about ex-girlfriends: you have long forgotten about them, and not to face a real gentleman to rivet about their amorous affairs. Pay more attention to talk about work, talk about your professional successes, plans, achievements - a girl must understand that before her is not some fledgling young woman there, but a serious young man you can rely on. However, do not go too far with the laudatory odes in your address - "Pontees" are more likely to be repelled than vice versa. Pay attention to your appearance - it must be neat and tidy. Enjoy a good men's perfume - women are very avid for different pleasant smells. In a word, look so that you would like to touch. In the conversation do not forget to pay more attention to the companion, be interested in her life, hobbies, plans, etc. By the way, the common hobby is very close. If your girl loves dancing, you can also enroll in a dance group, so you will have a great opportunity to see her and communicate more often.
And then - just talk with her about what place she takes in your life, as you understand it ... Just do not be scattered about your feelings for a long time. If your girl suddenly starts talking, then stop and listen. Tell her about your sympathy and offer to meet. And most importantly, do not extinguish yourself. 2-3 years is not a difference at all, especially since the age range is practically not felt. Be persistent, but unobtrusive, do not mumble, be confident! Hold on with dignity, let her know that you are an intelligent guy and with a prospect!
Ultimately, unconsciously, every woman is a mother, and she needs to be sure that she has a real support in life! Do not try to seem cool macho! Be yourself! When she asks: "What are you doing?", Never answer "nothing". Always say that you are busy with something. This will make you in her eyes much more interesting. Avoid formulations: "How about giving me your number?". Try instead to use something like: "I'd like to talk to you again, is it possible?". Such treatment always gives better results, as it limits the ability to respond to you with a refusal, because it will sound rather silly. Always listen and watch everything that interests your girl. Such training will tell you which topic to choose when you try to start a conversation with a representative of the beautiful half of humanity whom you like. It is a common myth that in order to be successful, you need to approach a woman right away as soon as you see her. Of course, when your communication skills develop, you can easily come up with unique methods of dating using improvisation. But while it is better to move carefully and gradually, not to frighten away and not push away the object of your desire.
If everything goes well, and you finally have reciprocity, do not forget about the pleasant signs of attention - bouquets of snowdrops in early spring, gifts, gallant attitude.
Relations with a more adult woman have their advantages: with it you will grow up more quickly and become more serious, and physiologically the woman has a peak of sexual activity in the region of 30 years, for men at this age begins a gradual sexual decline. In addition, according to statistics, women live longer, so you have the opportunity to die together in one day.