And we, for some reason, wait for the promised, as the proverb says, three years. It is not at all a fact that a man has not fulfilled his promise by nature or by malicious intent.
He promised to call yesterday morning, but this evening is the evening and the phone is silent. He promised to help your mother with the repair, take you on weekends for shopping or go with the child to the cartoon. Oh, but what he did not promise, and the trip in the summer abroad, and nail the shelf, and whatever he promised you the result one, he did not fulfill the promise given to you. Why did he do this? Did you want to upset or lie in men's blood? He did it for the same reason that you promised your mother in childhood, do not have snow and clean up your room, just to be left behind.
Or maybe he just forgot? Not because his head is leaking, but simply his memory pushes events and deeds that are subconsciously not essential for him. For the same reason, you often forgot to bring a film to a colleague who was promised to give a look or call a friend for a long time to chat. Cases that are not of particular importance and value, memory "likes to push to the back".
Failure to fulfill promises does not characterize a man from a bad side. And does not mean that he can not be trusted at all. If he did not fulfill his promise to take you to a restaurant, that does not mean that he will not fulfill his promise to marry you.
If a man occasionally gives promises, which he does not then, because of other more important cases or other circumstances, there is nothing to worry about. Another thing, if you throw words into the wind became part of his habit, became his second nature. Is it possible to fight this and how to get a man to keep his promises?
You can try several ways to work on the wordless. The simplest thing is to explain your attitude to his unfulfilled promises. Tell us how it offends you, how important it is for you to know that by giving a promise, it will fulfill it. A person who loves and cares must listen and take it to a brief. Although, the other can simply promise to do so no longer.
Remind me that it is better to refrain from promises altogether than to be known as a liar and a deceiver.
You can apply a method called a "mirror". That is, in some situations, do the same as it does, do not fulfill the promise. For example: promise him a romantic dinner followed by a rapid continuation and do not follow. Or, as it were, accidentally forget to fulfill his request. Make him feel how unpleasant it is to deal with what is not fulfilling his promises.
You can, of course, stand over your soul and demand that you fulfill all that you promised. But this method almost never works. Men only annoy and repels persistent imposition of something.
And how often do we think about whether a man's word is a promise. When after a delicious dinner, he suggests you somehow go to a restaurant to save you from having to cook. Or when your question: "Darling, will you buy me a fur coat?" He replies: "My dear, I'll think about it." In such cases, women perceive this as a promise, but the man is not at all.
Of course, much depends on the promise that the man gave you. If he in a fit of tenderness said that he will carry you all his life on his hands and fill up with flowers. It is unlikely that you will have a picture in which a decrepit old man tries to pick you up or spends the entire pension on a bouquet for you. And if he promised to quit smoking and go in for sports, is it right to demand fulfillment of the promised from him? In this case, everyone has the right to their habits, everyone is responsible for their own health. It's another matter if bad habits have developed into a disease, for example, alcoholism, and he wants to get rid of it, but can not do it on his own. Then without your help and the help of a specialist, he can not do.
Do not call him a liar and a deceiver, trying to make him feel guilty. Think about it, maybe you ask too much from him, forcing you to make endless promises?
If a man has never been seen in giving empty promises, this should not be particularly pleasing to you. Perhaps your man breaks into a cake to keep the word. Such hyperoperability is characteristic of extremely insecure people. Fulfilling the promised, they are filled with self-esteem, which they so lack. Such people often react painfully to the non-binding. And the phrase "somehow phoned", thrown by you, can cause the person not to part with the mobile phone for a minute, waiting for your call.
Solving the question of how to make a man keep his promises, in no case do not resort to magic, do not look for conspiracies and rituals. Do not talk to fortunetellers and sorcerers. It remains to be seen how this can turn against you. Do not set as your goal to catch a man on the fact that he did not fulfill the promised. This can become a factor of irritation and lead to a quarrel.
Think, it may be wiser not to take on faith all the words he said? And if he somehow promised to buy you a ringlet or something else nice, do not expect this from him. Do not look dreary glance in the windows, spoiling your mood. If he does not want, still will not buy. But, when you do not expect, but you get, the joy of a gift increases at times.
It is important to remember that when you are trying to get a man to fulfill his promises, you must keep your promises yourself. To prevent the game in one gate. Whichever methods you struggle with the unfulfilled promises of men, the main thing is not to overdo it so that the struggle does not turn into an end in itself. After all, the main thing is the harmonious relationship of two loving people.