Wheel of Happiness
Over the years it has become increasingly difficult for me to maintain this "eternal flame" in myself and my husband, preserving the freshness of perception. In place of bright, unforgettable moments came a comfortable measured life, we began to sink in the routine. Memories of the first days, months and years of life together with each couple are always shrouded in a romantic haze. Many couples believe that in their life the bouquet-candy period was the happiest. Then everyday life begins, in which there is a grinding to each other, often accompanied by dramatic experiences of partners. And the ease, the beauty of the relationship, the daily feeling of the holiday, which marked the very beginning of the story, have to be forgotten. In this case, one can love a person, experience a passion for him, but at the same time feel some discomfort next to him. Over the years, there is a danger of getting bogged down in quarrels and domestic conflicts. The birth of a child can also complicate the situation. After all, almost all the time has to be given to the newborn, and less and less to each other. But the essence of partnership, marital relations is not only to solve only domestic issues. It's about not forgetting that parents are also close people, spouses, lovers ... It's not difficult to bring back the feeling of joy from communicating with each other. Family therapists recommend a universal recipe ... regularly go on dates with each other.
Return romance to relationships
The meetings help us to feel that life actually consists not only of parenting and overcoming domestic difficulties. It is in a sense a return to that sweet time of the first meetings, when we just got acquainted and were fascinated by each other. The initiator of such a rendezvous can be a man. Although more often still the idea of ​​returning the freshness of perception in relationships arises precisely from a woman who is more sensitive and emotional. It is she who feels a lack of spiritual intimacy with her husband, lover, partner. An important condition for such a meeting is to plan joint affairs, which you have never (or have done) for a long time. This is necessary in order to be able to see the partner in a different light, getting to know another, until now unknown to you side of his personality. Such meetings in an unusual situation can be improvisation. At some point, one of you wanted to walk around the city in the evening, you appoint another meeting at the very place where your first date was held. And then, without hurrying up, you will pass along the well-known routes that every couple has: quiet courtyards in the center, lanes, embankments, parks. You can finish the walk in your favorite cafe or restaurant. But no less the charm of those visits that were well thought out and planned by you. By the way, it does not matter what you do in these hours, the main thing is that you will spend them together (you can take care of the children with a nanny or arrange with grandparents). Also remember that the thing that you decided to dedicate a few hours to, should suit you both.
It is possible, however, that for some couples an unusual, but at the same time, the most welcome pastime is ... a family evening in front of the TV. Such quiet pleasures will be to taste, for example, very busy with their business and career, spouses who rarely can afford the luxury of communicating with each other at home ... If your tastes and interests do not match, you can specify the details. Let's say you are a theater-goer who does not miss a single premiere, and football is closer to him. So you buy two tickets to the theater and invite him to the play. He - two tickets for football, and you see the match of the century together ... In our view, the closest thing to intimacy is always the crowning of a date of love. Rendezvous with her husband may not end with sexual relations. Except in cases where only sex keeps the couple together. If at least one of the spouses experiences discomfort or doubt, you should not insist on this. For spouses, it is important to be able to maintain erotic tension in relationships and not try to revive sexual life, trying on, for example, the image of a fatal temptress, not typical of you. It's more likely to scare a man. And half-hints, occasional touches, compliments - all this will make him understand that he is the only and desired for you.