And only, for some reason, the impression was created that they are all faceless, a solid bright mass, devoid of individuality. Even the combination of individual beautiful things did not create a stylish picture. And then I thought about how to teach a teenager to dress beautifully and stylishly.
To begin with, I had to figure out what I wanted. After all, beauty and style are not the same. On the pages of fashion magazines and catwalks of the great metropolises of fashion, there are certainly beautiful models. But the style appears, or does not appear, when clothing from the stage moves into life. Therefore, style is defined by accents of appearance in a broad sense, dictated by individuality.
The ability to dress beautifully and stylishly is still a skill that needs to be learned. Nature can impart a good taste, the ability to distinguish between beautiful, but the ability to choose from the beautiful is your own, make up from the chosen ensemble, which will be associated with you - a matter of experience, practice and endless quest. This explains the fact that it's easier to meet a stylishly dressed man or woman among people in adulthood than among young people. Over the years, self-confidence comes, the person realizes who he is, what he seeks for, and what is postponed by the imprint on his image.
This does not mean that it is not possible to train a teenager stylishly. And the learning process is not too different from any other.
A sense of beauty, style and neatness, without which any beauty fades, graft in the family circle. From an early age, the child should be neat, clean, clothes should be harmonized in color, fabric structure, create an ensemble. If the child is automatically dressed in what lies in the closet from above, not particularly taking care of the sweater to the panties or not, to prove in the subsequent adolescent that it is impossible to dress like that, will not be very easy. As in everything, you can repeat the moral teaching a thousand times, but if you do not follow the declared principles yourself, there will be no sense from such edification. Children learn everything by experience or in spite of the experience of their own parents. Therefore, the best lesson on how to teach a teenager to dress beautifully and stylishly, which you can teach him - to become an example. Agree, quite a pleasant lesson.
In adolescence, children become "unmanageable." They seek to oppose themselves to adults, to prove their independence and rightness. To achieve these goals, all methods, including appearance, are used without exception. Distinguished by putting on something unimaginable is much easier than by actions and special skills, so often children choose an extraordinary style. Some parents do not take seriously the appearance of children, others, more conservative, actively resist attempts to prove themselves. Both methods will not yield positive results. Indifference will not teach anything, and rejection will only strengthen the desire to resist.
The best way is to try to understand the youth. Indeed, many youth models are really beautiful, unusual and convenient. After playing in adolescence, having tried himself in various styles and directions, up to the extreme styles of youth subculture (emo, punks, metalheads, goths), it will be easier for a teenager to come to the golden middle. And how else can you understand, your something or not, without trying, not trying on and not feeling on yourself.
Explain to the teenager that, imitating and seeking to acquire a thing, like everyone else, he becomes part of the crowd, loses his personality. But do not insist on your own, if the child remains adamant. At this age, being part of the crowd is cool. Better together, be interested in novelties of youth fashion, discuss them, take joint shopping trips, give the teenager the right to choose, but explain how your option is better or better. After all, they imitate parents, although they will not even admit it to themselves for anything.
It is far from superfluous to simply join the culture. Fine art, music, theater form the worldview and taste. Visit museums and exhibitions, go to the cinema, discuss together what you saw.
The mass media, the Internet, television abound in information about fashion and how to dress beautifully. Buy youth magazines. Both girls and young people read them with rapture and follow the advice. Fill the teen's brain with the right information. If you do not tell or inculcate anything about the culture of clothing, the teenager will still have an idea. Only to form it will be a street, with its not the most aesthetic examples.
And yet, the style is created by accents, trivia and accessories. Parents, whose childhood flew in an era of the same school uniform, refer to clothing monumentally. Only the most necessary and practical. They find it hard to understand the need for all kinds of baubles, rucksacks, handbags and an abundance of costume jewelry. But try to understand it is necessary. It is not necessary to indulge in everything, but any teenager should have a minimum of "queen".
Greet, if you see that the child is doing something. Encourage him, do not leave unnoticed another newfangled manifestation. Just do not shout: "Take it off immediately!" Try to clarify why it's the kind that your child wants to convey. In a dispute (not in a quarrel!) Truth is born. Having discussed with you the peculiarities of your appearance, having listened to your clever comments, it is possible that the opinion of a teenager about his ridiculous appearance will change. And next time he will dress differently.
Attention and patience. As you can see, the same as in all other sciences.