So, you are a modern girl, confident in yourself, but with the phrase - " if a man does not fight for love, then does not like," your psychology is humbly inclined and recognizes the truthfulness of this phrase. What then? And you yourself can explain what it means to "fight for love"? Maybe you are mixing between two fans, and you can not understand why they do not call each other to a duel, they do not give you three meetings, so that you decide and give the final answer, do not get acquainted with your parents in order to get their location? Or here is a more trivial example: you quarreled with your loved one, and he went back on the path, deciding that it's better to give up on you than to do something yourself and create extra problems for yourself. And you, after talking, for example, with your mother, came to the conclusion that if a man does not fight for love, then he does not like , the psychology of relations is a serious thing, but it inevitably leads you sometimes to false conclusions. Build your happiness will be at first, but with another partner, calling the previous unprintable words and complaining about it to everyone who can. But are you doing the right thing? After following this logic and such an action plan, you can stay with your nose, because men are exhausted, alas, a resource. So think about your actions. Remember the eminent women and their relationship to men. For example, the saying of one of my favorite actresses, Grace Kelly: "A man by nature is lazy. If all women had a profession, men would sit at home drinking beer and staring at TV, "or a phrase thrown by an actress, screenwriter and writer in one person, Bette Davis:" Strong women marry only weak men. " And these are women of the 20th century! So if you think that there should be something to be done by a man alone, then you are very mistaken. Relationships are built by two people, and it is impossible to let someone in the process into the process, just like sitting on the ground with folded arms. If you really need a man, if you really love him, then you will do everything to make your loved one close. Well, if you are ready to sit for hours with a pack of chips at the TV and wait for HE to call, but do not call first because you have "pride," then I wish you patience and stock up chips for so many years ... onwards.
You know, when I write such articles, I involuntarily think about the fact that we, women of the 21st century, complain about what we fought for in 19-for which we fought, and ran into it. We wanted to be independent of men - we suffer from the fact that we are given little attention, we wanted to avoid sexual harassment - now we wear beautiful lingerie, so that only men want us, they demand work - now we are increasingly sad that we "plow like horses" and so on Further. Two centuries for history - pshik, and so much has changed. The worldview of a man has also become an exception. Let's reflect on what a man feels, who, as you think, does not fight for love?
Men all life someone must something. Just because they are men. Plant a tree-must, raise a son-must, build a house-must, provide a family-must, help the mother-must, fight for love-must, and so on and on and on. This is for us, girls, much that is forgiven and allowed. We can slap a man, and we will not get anything for it. But if a man slaps a woman, this does not add to his honor.
But we fought for equality of men and women, which means that it became possible for men to be slightly weaker, slightly irresponsible, a little more relaxed. The woman will not be a laughingstock if the first will appoint a date, the first will go on reconciliation, the first will offer to get married, the first will kiss. Of course, our pride is in vain, when we see how a man looks after us, how he shows his feelings. But to argue that he "does not fight for love" just because in some situation did not do as we would like, it is not worth it. We tend to exaggerate everything. Think, because what he does for you, too, is a kind of struggle in himself. If you do not like that at some point he did not show initiative, did not do something, then just discuss it with him. Surely your man has a strong excuse. By the same token, all people are different, and if the situation in which your young man is idle is not repeated for the first time, then probably the matter is in his character, and not in himself, and then decide for yourself whether you are satisfied this state of affairs, or not. Men love comfort, and if you value your beloved, then sometimes go to it for concessions. Good luck!