Is sex right for you?

Relations without obligations - oh, how intriguing and exciting it sounds! But let's check, is this, for example, suitable for you? Never thought about it? Maybe it's worth thinking about?


Friends with Benefits. Random sex. It does not matter what it's called, it's important that some people practice it, and generally succeed. But is it normal, if personal life does not go beyond the bed? And not from the point of view of public opinion, but own comfort. How acceptable is it for a smart and modern woman to have a purely physical relationship with a man?

Let's start with the last question. Sex for the sake of sex exists in nature, which means that someone needs yes. More precisely, it is very necessary for most different people in a variety of life situations. From him, women are fond of women, focused on work and careers, who simply have nowhere to take time to go to the movies and Sunday dinners with his mom (that is, relationships). Do not mind, and those who are convinced that sex is the only thing that is good in some particular guy. Girls who believe that before meeting a dream man, the hormonal background is not a sin to support someone with less perspective, also in their own right. And even more so you can understand women who believe that "your serious relationship is not yet for me." All these ladies benefit from friendship for the sake of intimacy (sometimes promiscuity, but not today). Relationships only for sex - a phenomenon quite normal. Sexual needs are not inferior to any other, and their implementation is a natural matter. In a woman's life, there can be periods when she is out of a permanent relationship, and this is no reason to abandon the desires associated with the intimate sphere.

Sexual rest
In the stories of people practicing sex without obligations, everything looks very attractive. Often, women in conversations with friends admit that this is exactly what they need.

"Consider the man you liked as a potential husband with all the obligations that follow?" "No, it's superfluous," such a girl reasoned. "I look at the guy and listen to myself - what do I want from him?" If it's about sex and if the man does not mind, we deal with It's only this, and no complications! "

If a girl has a clear idea of ​​what she wants in a relationship with a particular man, and the situation itself gives her satisfaction, then there is nothing to talk about. Reason for reflection may appear when intimate relations without obligations are overgrown with additional conditions that violate their naturalness. For example, if such contacts have appeared in your life after a divorce or separation, as if you are recouping for all the years spent in the bondage of domestic duties and domestic wars. Maybe for some time after the break and naturally go into free swimming, but if the flight is delayed, think about what you are doing. Do not take revenge on the former for the insults and hardships and is it time to start a new life, uncomplicated by the past? Or is it not binding sexual intercourse - this is the only way you know how to deal with men, but you know about all the other fronts of life only from the stories of your friends? Or maybe this sex is generally connected to you not so much with pleasure, as with the underlying ideology? For example, "modern women do just that" or "what am I worse than men? I also need only sex!". These and any other additional shades of the chosen relations without obligations say that everything is not so smooth and natural and it is worthwhile to look closely at what exactly you are doing, having sex on occasion.

How it's done
No matter how friendly sex looked in the stories of adepts, there are drawbacks, and considerable. To get the most out of this script, it's not enough just to find the right guy, you'll have to follow three rules. But you are no longer a girl, and you understand perfectly well that for a woman, a sensitive being, she is not easy to steer such emotional relations by her nature. So, if you were in the territory of No To What Not Binding Big Sex, ask yourself frequently control questions - but suddenly the viewpoint has changed?

1. Do you feel guilty or shamed?
For religious or cultural, or moral reasons, some women experience because they have such "unconventional" entertainment. You do not have to scold yourself and hang labels. But if you convince yourself that this is only done by whores, you will never get what you want from sex without commitment.

2. Do you take alcohol to be liberated? If you are ready for friendly sex, only when you missed a cocktail-another and nothing else, most likely, this whole situation does not seem to your mind as acceptable as you try to convince yourself.
Z. Do you lie to yourself?
Do you really really need only sex? Say aloud what you want, but be honest with yourself. Wisely entering men support "sex for friendship" only in the event that the girl agrees to him knowingly. Consciously - means with a clear understanding that for you all this is just as frivolous as for him. Both you and he must equally understand the nature of your connection.

4. Do you have any rituals related to sex?
If you practice such sex only in certain places (as an option, only a man at home, but never at home, definitely dressing before a date or ready to meet only in the area of ​​the city where you do not have acquaintances) are signals that you do what it is not completely natural for itself. You obviously need a cover, a mask, to realize your own intentions.

5. Do you like it? You're having fun?
After all, this is the most important thing: do you get pleasure from all this? Or do you tell yourself that it's better than nothing? The meaning of sex is to enjoy it. As soon as you realize that you are sleeping with a man, because you seem to have agreed, kiss him goodbye and go away forever.

"I like you"
Even the most ideal, without a single obligation, joint nights can end with banal, tender feelings. The Association of Sexologists of Canada shares statistics: 56% of women surveyed considered the possibility of entering into a more serious relationship with a sex partner without obligations. This is understandable: the relationship is a very intimate sphere of life, even if you do not count on their continuation. So what to do in order not to make the wrong decision? Take time out, analyze the situation. And be honest not only to yourself, but also to a man: if you want something more than sex, say. He is against it? Stop your meetings. Otherwise, all that awaits you is an even more painful parting.