There are such basic classical characteristics of friendship of the same-sex:
• common interests - people communicate with each other, because they are interested together, they are like tastes, hobbies, hobbies, they always have something to talk about;
• trust - you can say anything that comes to your mind without fearing that you will be misunderstood;
• Separate life - friends spend a lot of time together, but they have different plans for life.
Do all the points correspond to the friendship between a man and a woman? And how long? Let's consider possible variants.
A chidhood dream
Practically every girl had a boy friend, with whom she ran around the yard all day, playing hide and seek, climbing trees, or sitting at a school desk, doing homework together and walking around the schoolyard at breaks. Variants are possible the most different, but in a kindergarten, sports club or school - a real friend for sure you had. You were friends with him, of course! We played together, we laughed, everything was as it should be. Is it only friendship? Psychologists claim that in 70% of childish friendship between a man and a woman there is a physical attraction, only children do not understand this yet, but instinctively they are drawn to each other, they like to spend time together. Predominantly, such close children's friendship of children flows into love relationships during adolescence, and this concludes the friendly relations, developing into serious relations with thousands of misunderstandings and mismatches between a man and a woman. If such development does not take place, then they suppress the feeling of sexual attraction and sooner or later it can break out. A hidden jealousy and even more a constant companion of such relations. And events can evolve, as in the film "The best friend's wedding," where a friend's girlfriend is perceived as a competitor. And this is quite normal phenomenon, after all, for a long time communicating with a person, knowing its tastes and interests, we begin to claim it without realizing it. Think about what you will do if your friend decides to marry or go to another city?
Be near
In 95 cases out of a hundred in a friendly relationship between a man and a woman, someone feels more to someone than sympathy, and hopes in future for a serious relationship. And now, until a friend (or girlfriend) has come to his senses, at least be near him, to some extent control him, and at the same time to follow his personal life, give advice, and not always the right ones. A friend will sooner or later avoid you, because who likes to feel under the "cap"? So it's better to let go of the situation, give yourself and your friend freedom - so he will soon understand that without you he is nowhere.
Perhaps a novel?
To understand how you feel about your male friend, answer a few questions: 1. Are you ready to close your eyes to many even serious shortcomings of your friend? 2. Would your relationship change if his external features were "not in your taste"? 3. Knowing that your friend on a romantic date, quietly he writes SMS-ki? If you answered positively to at least one of these questions, then your friendship is in fact a romantic hobby.
Energy Exchange
Many psychologists and sexologists also argue that the friendship between a man and a woman is not entirely a natural process, because in any case we value each other as a sexual object. In the first minutes of dating a man pays attention to the external parameters of a woman, senses her smell and touch. It is hard to resist attraction, and most likely you will be able to restrain passion only for the time being. Approximately the same thing happens with pretty ladies. And, by the way, any relationship between a man and a woman is an absolutely special energy exchange, even if both participants in such relations claim that this is just a friendship. But they experience an easy emotional uplift. The tone rises, cheeks turn pink, there is a shine in the eyes of both, laughter becomes contagious - these are the laws of nature, nothing can be done about it. Therefore, experts in the field of psychology argue that sooner or later any relationship between a man and a woman ends in an intimate. And both perfectly understand this inevitability from the very first minutes of acquaintance, even if they do not admit it to themselves.
By agreement
There is one more possible variant of a different-sex friendship. And, by the way, the most stable is when they were already lovers, by mutual consent dispersed, but did not want to stop the spiritual or business communication. Such friendship is the most honest and open, there are no secrets or games between the partners. True, as your second halves will look at such friendship - this is another question! To understand what lies behind a different-sex friendship is almost impossible even for friends. This game is sometimes interesting, sometimes dangerous. The choice is yours!