Everything in your little baby - a beloved miracle touches, causes a desire to protect, protect from any sorrows, to make his life full and bright. And while you are experiencing anxiety and uncertainty, because reality is so changeable. Yes, indeed, everything happens. And it is hardly possible to protect the crumb from failures and losses ... The older it becomes, the more freedom it will require. And this will entail not only pleasure, but also disappointment. However, happiness does not lie in the absence of problems. You can do the main thing - to give your child a strong sense of harmony here and now, to teach him to enjoy bright and deep experiences, appreciate and understand them. And then he will carry this skill through his life.
Plunge into your love
The main need of a small baby is a favorite miracle to be loved by his mother and family, to feel how close they are to the fact that he simply is in this world, to know that he is a gift of fate to his mother and father. To make sure that this is true, first of all he needs a generous physical contact with his relatives. As often as possible embrace your little girl, press him to yourself. At the same time, look him straight in the eye, smile and say sweet words. In some sources it is possible to read: that the kid grew calm and confident, it should be hugged and kissed at least eight times a day.
But can the mutual love of parents and children be subordinated to arithmetical calculations? Parents, sincerely show your feelings! Grandparents, aunts-dyati, too, do not hesitate. Let your embrace be not a calculated duty, but a spontaneous, pleasant expression of adoration, support, encouragement. Try to convince the stern dad that true affection will give the child a sense of self-confidence, that he is good and right. This is what makes a child brave, strong. The protection of love and the safety that it creates will allow it to open peacefully to the world and people, to take an interest in the mass of unknown and fascinating things. And as a result feel behind the back of the wings.
I catch the moment
Already now you can help the child to distinguish moments of happiness and cherish them. He jumps on the trampoline, and you watch his radiant face, jumping from the ledge in the pool towards you and laughing gaily. But he, nabegavshis, snuggled up to you and listens to the story of a straw, charcoal and bean.
Divide and live with him these amazing events, smile, kiss on the vertex and press your little one to him. Take a short pause and say: "How well we are together! And have fun, and relax ... "The kid will learn to recognize and appreciate these moments of intimacy, trust, unity. On personal experience he will feel the genuineness of such relations.
Himself with
Sometimes parents are so eager to help the child, to develop it, to stimulate new achievements, that do not leave him time to live moments of happiness, enjoy them, "soak" with a quiet joy of being in harmony with himself. Learn the silence and "non-interference". Be close by, close, but give the crumb freedom to immerse oneself in one's own feelings, to do what pleases him. Let him completely pointlessly rolls back and forth the machine, turns in his hands for a long time and looks at the same cube, fills in the "maliks" one sheet of paper after another. Look closely, little face quietly, concentratedly, serenely ... Do not rush to teach him to draw a fish or little man, build a house of cubes or send a boat to a distant voyage. Wait, when the little one is distracted from his occupation, will be drawn to you. After that, it is perfectly permissible to offer cooperation and together with it to begin to build a garage for cars and load dump trucks on a dumper.
Need a company
The older your fidgety becomes, the stronger is the need for him in joint actions in which he can show his skills, dexterity, and ingenuity. He wants to cook dinner with you, play soccer with his dad, and build a model of the ship with his older brother. To be together and together to do something is happiness in itself! And if it works, happiness is doubly true! Organize collective lessons. Let the crumb wash the potatoes and carrots for the soup, help both children distribute the work of assembling the designer or folding puzzles, invite the father, together with his son or daughter, to glue a box for "secret treasures." And remember: in no case should you criticize a child for his awkwardness, inability, because he does not succeed! On the contrary, it should be supported by a kind word, calm, help. You will rub the spilled sink together. Incorrectly selected item, quietly replace the desired one. For the box, you may have to cut the cover a second time. But how wonderful it is to achieve this goal! The crumb feels like a full-fledged member of the family, feels self-respect and satisfaction. In addition, in an environment of support and a calm attitude toward failure, it implicitly brings up persistence, not fear of difficulties.
Forward looking
People who positively think, do good, are full-bodied every day boldly look to the future. Their affairs are controversial, there is always a smile on their face ... Optimism is one of the components of happiness. It's great if you manage to inject it to your child. Show on a personal example that from any situation you can find a way out. Do not talk about the change of black and white bands, learn to recognize the bright shades of reality. Do not allow yourself to be reveled in suffering. Better explain that life lessons need to be learned and not to return to them. What's next? Destiny is preparing gifts!
Attention!
Can you be happy? Today, now, at this moment? If so, then the little one will learn: to enjoy from what does, to be proud of oneself, to love, to be loved and to enjoy life.