Men are mysterious creatures! They can not find their socks for hours, but they are perfectly oriented in a pile of auto parts, dumped in the garage. They forget about our birthday, but remember the correct numbering of all the episodes of "Star Wars". What do strange male habits mean that irritate women? How to deal with them? And is it worth it?
Irritation grows
When you start dating a man, you either do not notice his habits, or you find them funny. What of the fact that he collects backup spare parts for a car in case of a breakdown, and to watch how he splashes in the shower is generally fun. But over time, the attitude toward the same "eccentricities" sharply changes towards negative. Especially when each time you scratch suede boots about a pile of stuff in the hallway for the machine. And after entering the bath, after the darling showered, suddenly stepping into a puddle and in amazement you find out that the walls, ceiling, curtains, mirror, shelves and dressing gown are also splashed with water, and here and there with foam for a bath. "God, what a swinishness!" - Think or exclaim you and begin to bake the partner for the fact that he ... washed himself. That's how he will explain your aggression. Understand, he always washed, and you were satisfied with the result - his clean body, and now you ignored the same result and "clung" to the process. Men such a semantic leap aside are attributed to the incomprehensible female logic, which can not be followed, and behave in the same way. The next time you again fall back on him because of the "flood in the bathroom", then again and again, and he stops washing at all. Or he goes with friends to the bathhouse and returns only in the morning. Or he collects his belongings and moves to his mother, friend, another woman. The reason is your terribly quarrelsome nature and unnatural intolerance to its cleanliness.
Habit is a diagnosis
The fact is that the habits that so irritate women are not a whim and not some malicious act of disobedience. As psychologists say, this is the established dynamic stereotype of ways of behavior, the realization of which in a certain situation acquires the force of need. In fact, the old habit is already part of the character, and it's very difficult to get rid of it at your own will or from your team at the same time. It is equally difficult and quit smoking, and learn that you need to wrap the cap on a tube of toothpaste, snap the lid on the jar with the shampoo after you use it. And for that, and for the other, one must have the willpower and the expressed desire to change.
But your partner will have such a need or not, in many ways depends on you. Suppose he has a habit of throwing his things. You repeatedly made him tactful remarks, asked to put things in their places and, sighing meaningfully, they themselves put things in order, but all to no avail.
Last straw
Of course, your tolerance must have boundaries. If he likes to take the last piece from a plate in the refrigerator, leaving it empty there, click on the TV console for two hours, jumping from channel to channel, and then announces that "there is one mura on the TV," and lies down to die, snatching only a cold, with This can be reconciled and get along with some amendments. And quite another thing, if the habits of a lover are close to lawlessness: he shakes ashes into your favorite vase, spits on, sex, lies in his shoes on the bed and constantly kicks your dog. In such cases, you hardly need to rely on your unusual pedagogical gift - it is unlikely that you will be able to re-educate this dork. And do not expect that he will correct himself, because he does not have, at least, the main incentive - love and respect for you.
Tell me about his habits, and I'll tell you who he is
In fact, with the constant habits and actions of your partner, you must not only fight or tolerate. They need to be noticed, preferably as soon as possible, and draw conclusions. After all, habits tend to reflect the character of your lover much better than his words and even deeds. Well, for example...
• Eats, as if for the first time in his life. Swiftly pounces on any proposed dish, swallows food, almost without chewing.
What does it mean? Such a person is capable of thinking in general categories, not exchanging details and not distinguishing nuances. Your sex will be regular, but not sensual; things are good, but not fashionable; food is nourishing, but not refined; relations are stable, but not beautiful. In a word, quite reliable, but boring type, devoted to the family and you. Still, perhaps he suffers from premature ejaculation.
• Never wraps the cranes to the end, does not close the doors or lids on the jars with shampoo or cream.
What does it mean? It is believed that the people who always flow from the tap water, the energy goes nowhere. Such men fuss a lot, but do not do anything; conceive grandiose financial projects and always burn out. They tend to constantly promise something, but do not do it. They endlessly schedule something, but their plans will not come true. Such men are like soap bubbles. Ideas arise as if from nowhere and quickly burst, leaving no trace.
• Without thinking, takes and eats the last piece of cake, a candy from the box, a cutlet from a frying pan ...
What does it mean? Selfish, infantile, and not even trying to pretend that he cares about you. The only thing that cares about him is his own comfort and convenience. And do not cherish illusions that you will educate him by kindness and exactitude. He is accustomed to using the selflessness of others and he will take from you any blessings and sacrifices, giving nothing in return. Do not waste your time and feelings on him - he will not appreciate it.
• Does not throw anything away. Everything folds into pouches and boxes, pushes in the corners - it suddenly comes in handy! Even burnt out a light bulb - it will be necessary if you have to mend the sock. With all this, he quickly quickly forgets about his treasure and later misjudges the whole mountain of garbage.
What does it mean? Zhmot, always looking for where to buy at least a couple of rubles cheaper, or waiting for the product to fall in price. "Spending" emotionally also does not like recognition of love and multi-level compliments you can not hear from him. He does not feel the charm of the present, life postpones for later: "tomorrow it will be seen", "the morning is wiser than the evening", "before this one must still live."
• Does not tolerate confusion and the slightest hint of chaos. Constantly adjusts the kitchen towels so that they hang symmetrically, undressing, neatly folding their clothes.
What does it mean? He is a terrible pedant and tidy in everything. Surely in his diary everything is written that he must do for a year ahead, including the number of sexual acts. While everything goes according to his plan - he is happy, but if something unforeseen happens, he immediately falls into depression. To live with such a person is unbearable and sometimes frightening.
• Permanently clicks the buttons on the remote from the TV.
What does it mean? As they say, and live in a hurry, and feel in a hurry. However, such a man pretty much manages. He is dynamic, active, takes an active position in life. However, he does not know how to concentrate on something for too long, and therefore, as a rule, is engaged in a creative profession. Is inclined to neuroses and depressions.
• Loves to read novels in the genre of fantasy and play computer games.
What does it mean? Most likely, he is a dreamer and a romantic in the shower. Perhaps he is not satisfied with his present way of life and place of work, but he has resigned himself and prefers to move away from problems, dissolving in other realities. Positive type. Happens in moderation of the complex.
• Always sits to see the whole room. If someone took such a place, requires or asks him to give in to him. Nervous if you have to sit with your back to the door.
What does it mean? Your partner has a well-developed so-called genetic memory. In primitive times, men always sat facing the entrance to the cave, ready at any time to repel an enemy attack and protect their home. These could be wolves that came to the smell of meat, or a stronger man who hoped to kill him and pick up his woman and cave. A partner so firmly programmed genetically, usually a great earner, a reliable support for all of his loved ones, a knight in relation to his wife and an absolute authority in the eyes of the children. Even after parting with you, he will be ready to take responsibility and help you for the rest of your life.
• Constantly admiring himself, looking in the mirror, prettied.
What does it mean? Before you narcissistic narcissus, living only by its own interests and requiring worship. He does not shower you with compliments, but you do. And he does not come for you, and you follow him. And even on a date he is late, not you. In bed, he also flaunts more, but does not care about how to please you. In addition, he will expect from you a permanent endorsement and confirmation that he is the best of all who ever had you, and in all senses.
• Do not deviate from his rules by a millimeter.
What does it mean? Stubborn to extremes. He is not ready for compromise, completely devoid of imagination and flexibility. You can not argue with him, you will not change your mind and you will not persuade him to break the order he had previously established, it is not worth trying. He even adheres to the rules even in bed. And if you have a sexual desire on Friday and usually he satisfies you on Saturdays, then it's unlikely that today you will break anything.
However, the main evidence of male habits, which irritate women - these are the features of educating your chosen one. So, they can be judged not only about him, but also about his family and the environment in which he grew up and lived before meeting you.