She makes plans, wants to share all the joys and misfortunes of family life.
But, a year later, there is a first quarrel, a foolish quarrel, what are all the quarrels, however, all the same. Both are furious! Cause? Yes, they probably will not remember now! Perhaps because of a cat or dog, if by then the couple had not yet had children. They are tense and exaggerate a lot. Then, an hour passes, and she asks for forgiveness and ... either her partner forgives, or she takes the dog / cat, favorite sneakers and runs straight to the registry office to file for divorce. Simply at this moment, she realized that she no longer wanted to remain a prisoner of this relationship and to experience the pressure of family life, which she seems to have stuck to her since the stamp appeared in the passport.
Time passes. And it seems that all the court formalities have already been settled and she may not even regret the decision, but the understanding that she is now, albeit quite a bit, but has become more lonely, at heart, still tormenting her. She begins to rethink the events that happened, return to the past and try to find the reasons for the divorce, blaming herself and others. There comes a waiting period. She is afraid of changing anything in life, hoping that perhaps he will come back someday and everything will be as before. It embraces feelings of anger, resentment, fear, then all this takes the form of long loneliness.
Such examples are hundreds, thousands, millions! As well as the reasons for this. Nobody is immune from divorce. Sometimes it is no longer possible to save a marriage, but overcoming this misfortune and speedy psychological unloading are in your hands.
How not to twist, and divorce is a collapse of hopes and trust in relation to the closest person. That's why, all these negative thoughts you must first delete from your head. Divorce is the most severe test of oneself, but still it is not the end of life, it's just the end of one of its stages, which tempered you, made you stronger and wiser. So think about how to make the next stage of your life more successful. Try not to lose heart! Divorce is not the reason to stop caring for yourself and just cry. Tears in this position is a normal reaction to what is happening, you do not have to restrain yourself, unexpressed emotions will linger and only slow down the period of psychological unloading after a divorce. The main thing is not to give up! First of all, mentally release your former partner and everything that connected you. Try to change the image, interior details, you can throw away some things that remind you of the past or even move to another city if you are not connected by children or other obligations. Change of place of residence will open new acquaintances, prospects, opportunities and will save you from probable meetings with the former husband or condemning views of associates. If you understand that unpleasant communication can not be avoided, then try to calmly react to all questions and give adequate answers. Since after the divorce you are an object of attention, even those people who were not too interested in your life before. Simply now, you have become the main topic for discussion, but do not worry, very soon too much attention to you will subside and you can breathe a sigh of relief. Do not be afraid to pamper yourself, go on vacation or implement your cherished dream, it will help ease the stress. Going to the movies, theater, picnics, classes in your favorite hobby are also welcome.
The next step is to identify new goals and objectives. Promise yourself to overcome all difficulties and build a bright future. Make a list of adjustments that you must make in your lifestyle. Do not forget to include in this plan the opportunities that a free life opens for you. Believe me, there will be a lot of such! Unloading after a divorce has its positive aspects! After all, it is not for nothing that many who have previously been married do not bind themselves more by his ties, but give preference to independence.
Psychological unloading after a divorce is a period long enough, which can take about a year. Of course, time heals everything, but if after this period your emotional state does not improve or you feel that you can not cope with the situation on your own, you should seek help from a psychotherapist. Since an untimely reaction to the instability of mental health can lead to more serious health problems.