According to statistics, about a quarter of women aged 30-35 years knowingly refuse marriage and long-term relationships. It is not so important what led them to such a decision, the previous negative experience, the fear of intimacy or the prolonged search for the non-existent ideal partner, but they declare: "I choose solitude!" It is worth adding: at this stage of life.
7 reasons to be alone
What does it mean to be alone? Let's evaluate the opportunities that a period of life gives us without a partner. What can you do in time?
Get to know each other
Psychologists are sure: life "without a couple" is first and foremost a meeting with one's own "I". Loneliness is a huge resource of self-knowledge and self-development. Being alone with each other, it is easier to hear that inner monologue, which is often drowned out by the voices of not only strangers, but also the closest people. We are a pair of beings and communication is the most important factor of development. But loneliness is the opportunity to acquire an incredibly enjoyable experience of talking with yourself. Especially if you treat yourself with love and interest.
To rejoice in "non-permitting"
How often married women do not allow themselves short moments of happiness. You can not buy new shoes, because the budget is painted, there's no time to lie around in the morning longer in bed, because the family is waiting for breakfast. Together to meet with friends in the style of Sex and The City, you need to go for a sofa for your mother-in-law. And so on and so forth. Sometimes the circle of duties becomes already and overcomes the sad thought: why do I live like this if I am not my own mistress? Independent ladies take care of themselves and plan their own pleasures without any doubt.
Enjoy the personal territory
In all senses. People who are long in a relationship often complain about the lack of "personal space", and a single woman loves and values her "nest" and formed foundations. Incidentally, accustomed to independence, the duma is the ideal partner for a mature man, because she understands the importance of habits and boundaries already existing in adults.
Form a social circle
Together with a constant partner in the life of a woman come his friends, relatives, and sometimes children. And alone, she has an excellent opportunity to choose, with whom and at what distance to communicate, how much energy to invest in friendship and what to expect a response. And, by the way, there can be enough time for communication, because building paired relations takes a lot of energy and energy.
Start new relationships
The personal life of a woman who consciously chose a life path without a permanent partner can develop in different ways. Perhaps our heroine is dating, it is possible that she has a relationship in the form of periodic meetings with one or even several men. In any case, she is open to new relationships and free to start them and finish when, it seems to her, time comes. It's great if new acquaintances are not born to fall for the bait of a stereotype, not in order to "was", but just for fun.
Plan
And, of course, without looking at someone's opinion to implement them. For example, rent an apartment next to work, suddenly fall off on vacation with a friend or start three cats - all this is much easier to do, if you do not need to consider somebody's opinion. However, it is more cautious - the ability to negotiate and reach a compromise, yet important for life qualities and the habit of being alone can turn into a lack of reconciliation and intolerance towards someone else's opinion.
Watch on Myshire
Better and more comfortable there are autonomously those who know exactly, relatives and friends love them just like that, and not for a set of "right" qualities. Ionis are absolutely right, because you can get warmth and attention not only from married men, but also from close ones and friends, and sex is not always equal to deep attitudes and affection.
3 secrets of a full life
- Do not look for reasons of loneliness in yourself. "I'm fat and I'm not a good character." These are forbidden thoughts. "I like my life" - that's right!
- Do what you like. Women, passionate about work, sports, creativity or any other business, often feel happy, because they not only fill their lives, but they will energize with others.
- Do not under any circumstances resist the pressure. This does not mean that friends, mom or colleagues are not in a position to give valuable advice. It's just that many sincerely feel that "being lonely is ugly." If your environment actively and constantly raises this subject in conversations, be unkind, say that while you take a timeout.