Stress is an ambiguous phenomenon. Sometimes it has a positive aspect: mobilizes our actions, increases energy, helps overcome obstacles. Sometimes, however, it lasts too long. Then it can have the opposite effect: apathy or anxiety, inability to act effectively and even physical ailments. This limit is very individual and depends on personality, character, from past experience and current life situation. With such stress and its negative consequences, it is possible and necessary to fight.
We all know what stress is - ways of getting out of stress are not known to everyone. The methods are different, they should be selected individually and alternated at their own discretion. One helps special exercises, others relax and relax in the bathroom, while others think that the most important is proper nutrition and a healthy lifestyle. In any case, it's good that it's effective. But it is most important to understand what are the sources of stress and how we react to stressful situations. Then we can transform these reactions in order to combat negative stress and use positive stimuli.
Understand the exact cause of stress
Almost every day on the way to work, you begin to feel anxiety and a headache. Think about what irritates you the most: the work itself, the problems in the team or your own insolvency? Maybe you are out of yourself bad organization of work and inappropriate conditions? Or maybe you are tired of an eternally annoyed boss? Meanwhile, almost everything is solved. The organization of work can be improved: take the initiative at the general meeting or in personal conversation with the authorities. With colleagues, probably, it is possible to manage and reach the compromise. In correcting the behavior of the boss you, unfortunately, you can not participate. However, you can understand that his irritation is not directed personally to you, it is not an assessment of your work. Your superiors treat each person this way, because that is his nature. So maybe, do not fuss? Often awareness of the problem can be its solution. Think about it - it will become easier for you.
Learn to say "no"
Everyone always wants something from you. And the family, and colleagues at work, and friends literally tear you apart. You feel depressed and burst into pieces. You feel sorry for yourself that others use you. You deplore the situation of asymmetry, because no one cares about your needs.
Let us consider, however, the real essence of the problem. It's good that you are friendly and helpful if you do this voluntarily and spontaneously, and do not have to take on the burden of other people. And you can not refuse, because you have a low self-esteem. You are afraid that people will leave you, take offense and turn away. And then you turn your back on yourself. No one will start thinking about you until you start doing it yourself. Tell the next applicant clearly and clearly: "Sorry, I have other plans" or "I can not lend you money." In any case, you can come up with false prepositions, if you can not just refuse. In time, you will also get tired of lying and you will speak directly. For some of us it's very hard, but it's necessary to learn how to do it. Try it and you will see that it is possible. Get rid of stress, acting under duress.
Do not think that without you the world will collapse
You constantly live under the weight of responsibility. You have too many worries both at work and at home. You are tired and can not relax. Increasingly, you complain about health, depression, stress, but still continue to live as before.
Stop! Stop for a moment and think: do you really have to do everything for everyone? Maybe you are convinced that no one but you can do it well? Maybe you think that nobody except you does not care that all this will collapse? Perhaps, this is your excessive perfectionism takes the form of independence and initiative? Try to share the tasks with the family, colleagues and subordinates at work. Carefully conduct a check, help if necessary, but let people work without you. You may find that you do not have to do anything. Everyone can do something on their own, the world does not collapse and things do not fall apart. At first you will feel uncomfortable, and then you will relax, and the stress will go away.
Do not try to please everyone.
You want everyone to like, with everyone being on a short leg, everyone should be pleased. You hate tension, conflicts and even temporary disapproval and dislike. You live in tension, wanting to please everyone, torn between conflicting demands and expectations. In the end, you no longer know who you are and what you want yourself.
Remember: it's impossible to please everyone! You have to admit that not everyone will love you, because it is simply impossible. Think better, what is your personal opinion on this or that situation, express it to your relatives. Let not all respond to this positively, but you will find yourself. Around you there will be much less stressful situations. Even if the "admirers" a little pouabavitsya.
Learn to express emotions
You are annoyed by abuse and math at work, irritating nagging husband, annoying disorderly children ... But you silently take offense, hide irritation and keep emotions in yourself. This is the direct path to depression, nervous breakdowns and psychosis. Discover those around you that you really think. They should be able to imagine what is upsetting and unnerving of you. If you constantly live in growing tension - you will sooner or later "explode" for the most trivial reason. And everyone will be surprised and frightened - you were all happy! And there will be resentment on their part - after all, could tell about their frustrations!
It seems that you have difficulties expressing emotions, especially negative ones. Do not accumulate a negative for the environment. Say right away: "I do not like it", "I do not want to live like that", "It annoys me". But it is better, of course, to express your thoughts culturally and in proportion to the situation. You will see that it is easier to solve small problems before they can grow to the size of a big drama.
Do not make an elephant out of a fly
Around some problems and you do not know how to solve them. Feverishly you come up with additional scenarios, develop strategies, but the situation only worsens. Even the smallest and lightest case bothers you anyway. Panic. You acknowledge that the task is insoluble.
Even if at first you can not control your emotions, try to do it. Calm down, think, evaluate the situation soberly. You can not be too optimistic and understate the problem - it's true. But it is even worse to be too pessimistic in life, constantly exaggerating the problems. First of all, do not think about the worst and do not worry about the outcome in advance.
Accept yourself
You are unhappy with yourself. Do you think: "What I do is good or could I do better?" You are analyzing what is said and what someone said to you. Throughout the night, you look through the memory of small gaffes, which probably no one paid attention.
Stop in your self-criticism. You can not do everything perfectly - no one can. You can not be the best in everything - this is beyond the power of anyone. Remember: you are just a man, alive, making mistakes - and that's fine. Think about your merits, and not only about imaginary flaws. Who does not have them? Just enjoy yourself!
Eat foods rich in magnesium
It is widely known that proper nutrition can protect it from stress. Products rich in magnesium make the nervous system more stable. Especially rich in magnesium oat flakes, wheat germ, nuts and dark chocolate. Magnesium effectively kills black coffee and carbonated drinks. Enrich your diet with magnesium and exclude drinks that kill it. Very soon you will feel in yourself new forces to deal with stress.
Do not avoid traffic
The most effective way to relieve tension is exercise. Absolutely any - from simple charging in the mornings to going to the gym in the evening. A very good way to get out of stress is swimming and one of the most popular sports of celebrities is skiing. Remember that physical activity accumulates forces and you become more resistant to stress. Which is the best way to start the day - it's up to you. But be sure to start it actively.
Relax in the bathtub
After long hours of work, all muscles are strained, especially the neck muscles. Take a warm bath with herbal oil or salt, for example, the Dead Sea. Choose salt that contains more bromine, because it calms the nervous system. Lie down in the bath, close your eyes and think about something pleasant. Relax all muscles and do not rush out of the bathroom. After rubbing the skin with an aromatic oil that moisturizes and nourishes the skin well.
Breathe deeply and calmly
When you are nervous, you start to breathe quickly and very finely. Then the blood is less saturated with oxygen, and your body receives less energy. Proper breathing is a rest for the body and a rest for the nerves. Take care that the breath is drawn through the nose, exhale through the mouth. Breathing in the air, you pacify, and breathing out, get rid of fatigue. There is a special breathing technique with a set of special exercises. Such breathing exercises will surely defeat your stress - yoga will also become a way out of stress.
Avoid unnecessary noise
Some of us are more sensitive to noise than others. If you have any sounds that particularly annoy you - avoid them. If you are worried about loud music from your son's room, talk with the child so that he listens to the music in the headphones. You can not expose yourself to additional stress because of his likes and dislikes. Such a compromise will benefit everyone.