Self-discipline can be compared with the temperature of the car engine. If too low, the movement will be slow, if high - not withstand the load. What do your sensors show?
Sensor blue - reduced level of self-discipline
You are having a hard time, or not at all teeth diet, deadlines, regular training and other activities that require miracles of discipline. All this is accompanied by a sense of guilt, a decrease in self-esteem and a feeling of complete lack of freedom, the eternal obligation of something to someone (both to themselves and to people).
Why is that? Most of the lives of those who are now in the area of thirty, controlled by other people - educators (for young people this statement is even more urgent). Few of us have delegated enough authority to learn how to make decisions on their own, control their behavior and fully bear responsibility for this. And the main thing is to get pleasure from this process, not to suffer from remorse, constantly being afraid of punishment. You concentrate on the negative: first you think about what you will lose if you live in a more organized and responsible way ("it will be boring and not spontaneous", "successful people are lonely", "I will not have time for entertainment"), and you do not change the childish one, continue to live in a more or less familiar chaos and suffer unequally unpleasant feelings ("again they will scold", "I'm tired," "I never get to 44 size"). You are afraid of failure and live on the principle of "all or nothing": "nonsense to lose weight in kg", "there is no point in postponing 500 rubles a week", "nesmeslisa engage in half an hour a day." But nevertheless, it is in small steps that this meaning is concluded.
How to fix it?
Thinking about losing successful and organized? Think better what they get! A few minutes of daily planning (compiling a list of cases) will free the hours for your favorite activities, praise instead of self-flagellation will reinforce the result (along with a list of goals it is necessary to compile a list of simple incentives).
Are you afraid of failure? Honor the biography of the stars and find in every dozens of examples of bad luck. Do not you know what to suffer for? Remember the cheerful words of someone brave people and reformulate the "suffering" in the cases for which you were praised by someone who is really meaningful (not necessarily a relative, friend, mentor).
With each successive (smallest) achievement in self-discipline you will become more confident in yourself, which means that you will be able to make real moves.
The sensor of red color - an excessive level of self-discipline
You are envious of colleagues and friends: in an hour you can remake just how many others do not have time in a week. In the anthropological museum, it could be an ideal exhibit for homo disciplinus. The other side of such a turmoil is difficulties with relaxation, inexplicable pains in different parts of the body. You exist on the extreme possibilities of the psyche and sincerity that this is an occasion for pride, and not for anxiety.
Why is that?
Te6e understand the words "must", "should", "now", "not." Almost do not understand: "I can not", "tired", "I want". I'm not used to multi-reflect, ask questions "why" and "why", you can do well from fence to lunch. Most likely, in your family someone was a workaholic, and had his own reasons. And you see the meaning of life in overcoming difficulties. Planning and every-minute employment (most likely, even rest and planning and structured) give a sense of control and security - nothing unexpected happens (though not fact, but a conjecture). In addition, pauses will provoke reflection, and you are not comfortable with this state. Maybe it's vitally important not to think about something very unpleasant that happened to you. Perhaps, happy with life and deliberately choose to glow, and not slowly smolder. As if you do not suspect that between two extremes there is still "burn" and "warm up" ", Delighting someone with the warmth and beauty of this spectacle.
How to fix it?
The fact is that homo disciplinus is very much inclined to cadences and diseases with mysterious symptoms. And to treat such diseases, they help mainly frightening pauses, during which, on the surface of your structured life, healing spots of awareness and answers to questions "why" suddenly appear. Do not create a pause for yourself - the body podkinetvnezhny cold, inexplicable anguish. The difficulty is also in the fact that yours is highly approved by modern society, and few people do not admire such a successful, strong woman. If you learn to relax and be able to let things go on their own, you'll go to an even rarer group - homo idealis.
Colorless sensor-normal level of self-discipline
You know how to get together when it's really necessary (family, business, health), but you do not turn life into heroism and struggle. You understand that everything is only a living person, so your possibilities are limited, but sometimes the wings grow.
Why is that?
As a rule, the case in a happy childhood, as it were banal etony sounded: next to you, for sure, was someone reliable and brave, allowing you to show maximum independence in the knowledge of the world, relations with people and yourself, but at the same time was always ready to support. There is also the likelihood that this valuable quality you acquired in the process of life, but here it was without a good teacher, an example. You know that sometimes it's important to do what is necessary, not what you want. But it is no less important to follow the wishes from time to time. You understand that for serious work and overcoming normal human laziness you deserve rewards, that it was your free choice, and not a long time, and you are good, because you made such a choice.
Prevention
Do not be afraid that life will lose its paint, stavrasplanirovannoy, filled with obligations and routine. In your opinion, all this can bring joy, and not only to take away strength and spoil the mood. The best preventive maintenance of a healthy level of self-discipline is the translation of your experience in a horizontal (friends, colleagues) or vertical direction (children). Inspiring others to a healthy lifestyle and reasonable self-discipline, you maintain a morale.