Friendship strong will not break,
It will not get rid of the rains and blizzards.
A friend in need will not give up, he will not ask a superfluous one,
That's what a true loyal friend means.
A friend in need will not give up, he will not ask a superfluous one,
That's what a true loyal friend means.
In our life, all people interact, for the sake of calculation or simply for the sake of spiritual satisfaction. Sometimes spiritual satisfaction from communication leads to friendship. And what is real friendship and is it possible today ? What kind of friendship should be? And with whom you need to be friends?
Friends, a friend are people who love you not because you have something or not because you are a great person in the city, friends love you just because you are. Yes, you are a great person, but in their hearts, if not even in the city. It is they who come to you for help or with help when you need. It is about you that are remembered in joyful moments, and they want to share it with you. You are a friend to him, and he is a friend to you. You miss him when he is not around, and when the time comes for a meeting, do you think "and that I missed him so much?".
Friendship - as well as love, the strongest feeling that unites hearts. Nowadays it is very difficult to find friends, or it may be easy, we just have too many requirements for a potential friend. Or our thoughts are just busy with something more mundane. And maybe you do not need to look for friends, they will find themselves when you need someone's help. Remember when you needed someone's help, who helped you? No, do not bring the bags to the apartment, and did not provide financial assistance, but something more ambitious, which is of great importance for you. And can you call him a friend?
A friend's help should not be matter, it must be spiritual. After all, friendship is not matter, but feelings. Our physical needs for help are just a small thing in life, but they play a huge role for us, because we give them too much attention. Moral or spiritual needs - that's what is important, if a person is in disequilibrium with himself, with his inner world, is in a depressed state, then no physical or material assistance will be useful.
Real friendship in general sense can not have rules, friends themselves establish their own rules in their relations, as birds build a nest, the general meaning of a nest is, in order to live there and hat eggs, breed offspring, but how to put a leaf or twig or the bird decides itself to stick. So it is in friendship - friends themselves decide that it is possible that it is impossible. Naturally, friendship should not only be taken, but also given. But always one takes more than the other. Respect, sincerity, devotion is a component of friendship, not rules.
A few years ago I met a plump cutie, we became very friendly with her, we could chat for days, make presents for each other for the holidays, go to parties, walk, go shopping, help each other, and support in difficult times. But then something happened, for some reason we quarreled with her. I would not say that much, but we took offense at each other. Now our ways have parted ways, and I often think about it. The saying "we have, we do not appreciate, we will lose crying is true." Sow to write this article, I seriously thought about this friendship and about it, maybe she is my girlfriend? Earlier, when I was friends with her, I did not think about friendship and the meaning of this word and the significance of these relations. Now I seriously think about friendship, about the meaning and significance of this phenomenon, and I try to make out my friend in every familiar friend.
No wonder they say that friendship breeds love. To some extent, I believe that friendship is love. A quivering attitude towards a friend, a desire to help him or comfort him, or rejoice at the happy moments in his life, are these not signs of love? It is some kind of love that is present in true friendship. Just a person for another person especially would not worry, and I would not be happy, instead of joy there would be envy. And that would know a real friendship, probably need to rub off each other's characters. And after going through all the barriers and grievances, all the same it will remain - friendship.
Now often I think who should be called a friend, who should not. Now this word has a meaning, but earlier I could call everyone by this title. And now I think before I call her a friend. I guess I'm obsessed with friendship. So, I have one friend. I know her for about five years. At first she irritated me very much, her voice, laughter, behavior, manners - in general everything! Even appearance. I somehow did not want to get along with her, but studying in college did the trick, we with it got used to say so, in my opinion, or rather I got used to it. There was a friendship of convenience, I think it would be to survive in this environment, and not to sink in the whirlpool of everyday couples. It's been two years since we graduated from this college, and for this time, I think, have gotten quite used to each other, and we still communicate. I fell in love with her over the years, although she lives far from me, but we often communicate with her, but see each other from time to time. Now she is pregnant, last month, and I'm waiting for her baby with her, and very happy for her.
They also say that they do not choose friends. And, in my opinion, very much even choose. In our days, our chosen friend must meet all our requirements, as if we choose a multifunctional phone that is better and cheaper. With greater benefit and less cost. Many parents tell their offspring "do not make friends with him! He can not be your friend! ", That they would communicate with children from their circle. From which circle? Children they are children. They have neither education nor work. Nothing. They do not have a circle either, it turns out that parents choose friends for their children, looking at the parents of this child. Does friendship have any limitations? After all, it is not necessary for a friend to have a good job, or a higher education, or even two higher ones. A friend is a friend, and is not measured by cash in his wallet, or by a good post. You can be friends with everyone and everywhere, with anyone. Important spiritual connection between friends, not monetary. We forgot how to feel, there is only one naked calculation in us. Do not confuse friendship with the calculation. If in your heart nothing shudders at the thought of a friend, then it is unlikely that this is friendship.
I do not think that in true friendship there should be common goals and interests, it is possible to be friends without it. Although in our time are friends with those people with whom there are common interests, because people do not want to bother themselves with searching for a true friend with whom there would be different interests. After all, it's interesting sometimes to argue with a friend about certain topics that concern either you or him. Just be friends, no matter what. Communicate with a person, admire him, see the inner world of another person. Just be friends with a person for what he is, just respect him and his interests, because he is your friend.
Although I am friends with my classmate, those around us are considered best friends, and I also try to see this friendship in our relations. At the university, we do not depart from each other for one step, always and everywhere together. And it seems to me that in our relations she takes more than she gives. I do not particularly welcome conversations about my personal life, and she very much even welcomes it, that's why I know everything about her, but she does not really care about me. While studying, we are always together, but in our spare time from studying we do not see very often, we rarely call up. I forgot to say that we are learning by correspondence. So you can imagine what our friendship is. And I represent friendship differently.
I remember very vividly our last quarrel. We swear only virtually, in reality we have not sworn yet, but so we have uttered a bunch of filth that anyone could become ill from such words and expressions. Although they say that as if friends did not swear, they always remain friends. In this I was convinced. The next day we began to communicate, as if nothing had happened. Or maybe this was promoted by the prospect of co-education at the Institute for another four years ??? Is this not a vivid example of friendship of convenience? And although I have a warm feeling for her and no matter how much we argue, they will not disappear. And if I lose her, will I think about her? And whether I want to resume friendship? For while we are united by a university.
I understand that every person has his own ideas about true friendship, but, unfortunately, the notions do not always correspond to reality, and it is possible to turn some ideas into reality, but not friendship. And, probably, true friends have someone who does not think about friendship and does not bother about its meaning and meaning, he is just friends, not thinking. And the one who thinks about all this means that he chooses his friends by some criteria that would create an ideal friendship for his ideas. A real friendship is not created, it arises. So, you do not need to think, but you need to feel and listen to your heart. Do not idealize, but accept friendship as it is. Better not think about friendship, but just be friends!