Perfect marriage. Armor for the husband? How often do we, women, become disillusioned with our chosen one. Over time, cute and so previously minor trifles begin to irritate. I have not met from work, I rejected the yesterday's cutlets ... and the relations are already starting to collapse. According to statistics, more than 50% of marriages fall apart in the first few years. So, today 10 commandments of a good wife: a beloved wife, mother, friend, colleague.
How many destroyed relationships in marriages of "civil", which are not included in any official data. Husbands are accused of failing wives, and wives are accordingly husbands. Who is really to blame? Maybe we, like Scarlett O'Hara from "Gone with the Wind" Margaret Mitchell, in advance we try on our chosen gold armor and for anything we do not want to see under them a real person. Invariably comes disappointment. Moreover, this feeling visits both halves and the new husband also wonders: "And where did that ideal woman with whom I married?" Maybe it's worth trying to become an ideal spouse for a chosen one and not lose your own "I"?
Men want everything at once, often these are completely contradictory things, so it will not be easy to experiment. To do this, you need to understand which type of woman your husband wants to see in you.
The keeper of the hearth
Most men want it by the side. For many centuries the strong sex has not forgotten how to like tasty food. The Germans developed the ideal formula of "keeper" - Kirche, Kinder, Kuchen (church, children and kitchen). Always a fresh homemade dinner, imperceptible education of ideal children and silence during the football match of his beloved team. Is your ideal close to this picture? Then go ahead! Just do not overdo it, otherwise the husband of the house will only eat and relax, and for other joys go to a completely different place.
With a lover of trust
This is the secret dream of each individual male, because over time, the appearing monotony in the relationship, no one has canceled. Boredom makes one look for a man of variety and new, acute, sensations. Hikes to the left are becoming more frequent, and the matrimonial bed is colder. And what if you play a lover? You can imagine, for example, that this is not a husband, but a mysterious stranger will come after work, and meet his second half in an intriguing outfit and arrange a candlelight dinner. Now you are not a banal and annoying wife, but a charming and passionate lover who is not interested in household trivia. Perhaps his surprise during the evening will be replaced not only by curiosity, but also by passion. And in the future such a game will help to open each other anew.
Careful Mom
The lack of independence of men and their subconscious desire to be cared for and protected, as in childhood, lead to the search for such a chosen one. The reminder of where his favorite shirt lies and the decision of all domestic problems for himself, will help to establish harmonious relations with such a husband. At the same time, one must constantly consult with him and ostensibly agree with any decisions. This will give him a sense of his own worth. But you've already decided everything, right? The main thing is that he does not feel that his opinion is ignored.
The real "I"
This role is the most difficult, because here you do not play, but remain yourself. Show yourself the real surroundings is not so simple as it seems at first glance. In this scenario, family life will have to understand what is really wanted and guided by these desires. Who knows, maybe you want your husband to try to make you feel good and take on the role of lover of your dreams? The main thing to be yourself. And what of all this will turn out, your joint life decides. As a rule, to be real with each other - this is the most harmonious relationship, because you do not have to pretend and try on other people's masks.