Of course, the family is not given as an attachment to a big and passionate love, it needs to be formed. And this must be learned. And it does not matter in what family the spouses grew up, and what their temperament is. It is important to communicate between them now in a new family.
In our age of rapid speeds, we are terribly busy and always in a hurry. Television fills all our leisure time, we began to communicate less with each other. Everyone is on his own, busy with his own affairs, with his own thoughts.
And people gather in the evening not to be together, talk to each other, and at the TV to shut up together. This is how the rust of estrangement begins to erode the family relations . Poor everyday spoken language. And this inability to communicate with each other leads to the destruction of the family.
It should be remembered that lack of communication leads to alienation of spouses. Communicating the same, they gradually begin to understand each other better and better. The main elements of the culture of communication are: empathy, tolerance, compliance, benevolence. And this is not so important topics of conversation, and it is important to hear a person and be heard.
The culture of communication between husband and wife significantly affects the frequency of disagreements and misunderstanding in the family. One of the main reasons for the worsening of relations is the inability of spouses to behave constructively in problem situations. In any collision, put your position above the other.
The main quality in communication is the ability to recognize the value of another, even if the positions do not coincide. Try to understand and accept what your loved one tells you. Maybe it's very important for him now.
Psychologists reasonably argue that conflict in the family is usually a consequence of the elementary egoism of the spouses, their unwillingness to think about the lover. His interests and whims to put on the forefront.
Lack of mutual understanding in the family leads to depression, alienation, to the deterioration of the psychological and physical condition, to a significant decrease in the capacity for work of a person. And as a result, the deterioration of relations, the distance from the partner. And this leads to the destruction of the family.
And these conflicts also lead to neuropsychiatric disorders, now the spouses can not hold back, rude or cry. And, having uttered a lot of different impartial words, they are compelled to follow what has been said. But it was uttered in the air, and not thought out. That's how they force themselves into inadequate actions, which they themselves later regret.
But it was worth first to listen to the problem of a loved one - and then you would not have to pay with your nerves, health, deterioration of well-being, mood and emotional background in the family.
Do not be selfish (coy) - and you will see how easy it will be for you to live!
Author: LiNea