Lack of self-confidence is a bad thing, especially if it concerns the sexual sphere. Obsessive thoughts that you are not sufficiently sexual, that you weigh too much, that you do not know how much, that something is wrong with you, are quite capable of destroying the relationship, especially at the very beginning. Below we gave a number of ways to raise my self-esteem a little to feel more confident in bed.
Move on
Statistical surveys showed that most girls and women tend to avoid intimacy, because they think that their figure is not ideal. Some agree to sex, but only in the dark, which, in principle, is almost the same. More than once it was said that men perceive the world differently - that for a woman terribly fat belly, then for a man it can be a small sexual fold in the waist region.
If, when examining yourself in the mirror, you feel disgusted towards you, go to the gym. And not for the purpose of losing weight - just any physical exercises perfectly help a person to more feel and understand his body. Also, special hormones of happiness are distinguished, which make it possible to receive special pleasure from training.
Relax
For some reason, most women think that all former women's partners were only sex bombs and ideal lovers. Because of this, they try during the sex to show all their abilities - how can you loud with a passion, scratch your back, dance a striptease on the windowsill, etc.
Relax. Stop to think constantly if you managed to outbid his ex. Throw out of your head the thought of "and suddenly he does not like it." Stop being constantly in control and trust your sensations. Do as you please. Relaxation can contribute to candles, incense, quiet quiet music, meditation.
Exercises that can help to relax:
- Breathe quietly, the exhalation should be slightly longer than the inspiration;
- Imagine in the head a pleasant relaxing picture: sunset, the sea, the sound of waves, anything - if only it helped you to relax and calm down;
- Try to relax the mimic muscles in turn;
- Mentally repeat the settings for a comfortable state, like "I am confident in myself, calm and able to experience pleasure."
Trust
It is trust that can become the main support for your confidence. It is unlikely that you can give some advice, for each person there is a recipe for trust. Someone can believe a partner almost immediately, someone needs to live with him for several years. In any case, trust is paid. Do not avoid your partner, it's better to talk to him a little more. Talk to him about your and his desires, what you like, what you would like to refuse, and so on. - the more you know about each other, the more you can trust each other. Do not be afraid to say "no" - sumeite refuse from what you do not want to do, otherwise you will lose the lion's share of self-confidence.
Together look through the erotic and pornographic films
Pornography is usually condemned. However, psychologists say that it can be a good incentive for emotional strong outbursts. Try experimenting and watching the evening together not a love drama, but a good pornographic film. Most likely, you will be very shy at first, but often such films very well help to open up in bed. Just try to choose a film of the highest possible quality, taking into account your tastes and tastes of your partner, then he can at the same time speak in a kind of textbook. However, do not forget that everything is good in moderation. It is not necessary to try to copy the film in exactly the same way - it is still a film, but an unreality. Much of what is shown there is an exaggeration, so do not be upset if it turns out not like in the movies.
We hope that any of these tips, or even all, will be useful to you in life. And above all, it is necessary to remember that in bed you are a Spartner, and that self-doubt in most cases is a problem not only for women, but for men. So try to trust each other as much as possible.