Proceeding from this, it becomes clear why sometimes even small troubles at work lead a man out of balance. Often, the head of the family is not able to cope with their negative emotions, so spills the negative on loved ones. A beloved woman can defuse a tense situation, the most important thing for her is to understand how to help her husband. But, if, God forbid, minor troubles turned into serious problems? In such cases, sometimes it comes to suicide. That's why a good wife just has to know how to help her husband when he does not get along at work.
What can a wife do when she does not get along at work, how not only to calm her down, but also to help with practical advice? The most important thing is to be able to show a maximum of tact and delicacy. After all, sometimes annoying sympathy or deliberate cheerfulness is not something that does not calm - on the contrary, irritated nerves inflame. If you avoid the most common mistakes that are allowed in such situations, you can help the spouse to solve the problem and restore to him the self-confidence, and hence, restore peace in the family. So, try:
First, do not start the first conversation about her husband's work. If he wants to discuss this topic with you, then, believe me, he will touch it. Perhaps at the moment he just distracted and calmed down, and then you take the wound. Do not be offended then, most likely it will cause anger! Even if a man and started talking about their troubles, the duty of the wife is to feel the moment when the conversation starts to irritate him, and close the topic. If you all day long during the week will discuss it, you risk losing your soul mate.
Secondly, do not get over with emotions. There are several extremes. Some take an extraordinarily brave appearance, letting them know that they are not at all upset (which can not be true, for if this is so, then you absolutely do not care about her husband's business). Others, on the contrary, wring their hands and panic. This behavior will once again let the man know that life is a disaster. It is worthwhile to show that what is happening grieves you, but you are confident in your wife, in his mind, business acumen and other personal qualities. So, soon everything will be fine.
Thirdly, in any case not to blame the spouse for what is happening. Even if he did something wrong, he knows better than you do. Pangs of conscience - the destiny of everyone. A close person a man is looking for, first of all, support. That's why in a difficult period a woman should ensure that quarrels do not arise in the house, either by trifles, or, even more so, by serious reasons. Postpone unpleasant conversations at a more convenient time, otherwise you take away from your loved one the last support, the belief in yourself. The consequences can be very sad.
Fourth, do not overdo it in your desire to help. Some, wanting to help her husband, praise them day and night, blaming everyone else. This can contribute to the formation of a man's high self-esteem, which is unlikely to help him settle problems at work. It is not necessary to take on the whole load of family cares. After all, looking at how everything works out (with apparent ease), the husband feels powerless, and, in the end, recognizes the status of the loser. So, this is how you will drag the family for the rest of your life.
Fifthly, please do not praise in the presence of a spouse of more successful men, when yours does not get along at work. Comparison with those makes him even more helpless, and that is triply hurt, this comparison is made by his own wife! Therefore do without examples, as a neighbor or a friend's husband overnight made a dizzying career or organized a profitable business.
And, finally, in the sixth place: be a bulwark of confidence and tranquility. By all means save the world in the family. Show your man that you love him. Make it clear that in any situation you will be there and support it. Explain that even losing a job is nothing compared to the life and health of close people. Prepare his favorite dish, offer to get out on the nature with the children or just stroll around the square. Distract him together from troubles. Forget about them for a while. Subsequently, a rested brain itself will prompt a way out of the situation.
Sexlessness, insomnia, apathy - these are far from all manifestations of depression in men who have lost their jobs or are experiencing a professional crisis. Now you know how you can help your husband when he does not get along at work and it seems that there is no way out. We hope that our advice will help you overcome this problem. Save a loved one from a disaster - the debt of a true companion, faithful wife. Remember: the crisis situation only brings loving people together. Support each other, and together you will overcome everything!