Can not everything be so scary?
Many people, when reading these paragraphs, can say that such phrases will sound very cruel. But those who are in this situation, this really can help. In fact, not all women who can not mum children, so much wanted these children. They were influenced by the husband's desire, the attitude of the family and so on. Everyone was worried and killed over the fact that the woman could not get pregnant. In the end, looking at how everyone perceives the situation, the woman herself starts to believe that she has a terrible grief and she wants to become a mother madly. Although, if there was no such pressure on the part of others, most likely, she would perceive the situation netak acutely. Therefore, if you have been diagnosed with this condition, be with yourself. There is nothing terrible and terrible that a woman can not so strongly want children to be killed for the rest of her life because of their absence. Therefore, still analyze the circumstances and give yourself honest answers. Just do not have to worry about what others will think. This does not concern them at all. A normal person who loves you will be just glad, as his loved one will stop suffering. And those who begin to lament and wonder how she can live like that, a soulless bastard, and do not cry in the pillow every day, generally are not worthy of your attention, because close to such people can not be called simply. Whatever stereotypes are not imposed by society, people who love us, will not exactly be imitated in such situations and will be glad that it has become easier for us.
Correct support
If the experience is really a consequence of unfulfilled wishes, then you need to learn how to deal with it and in no case should you let yourself be obsessed with what happened. That's why you need proper support. Next to you should be the person who can help you get out of the depression, which, most likely, will start because of what happened, and not drive you deeper into the abyss of despair. Therefore, in any case, do not allow yourself to those who frankly regret. It's just that you do not need pity. Yes, at first you will want to cry and speak and your loved one will have to listen to you, sympathize, support. But after some time, the tactics of support will need to be changed. The one who is with you next, should, on the contrary, not allow you to constantly think about it and suffer from your thoughts. Unfortunately, there are people who like the suffering of others. It is such a person who will sit with you side by side and constantly lament: "Oh what a poor poor you are, how God punished you. It's so terrible that you will not have any detok.Kak you can live with such grief. " Moreover, such a woman should be lamented in such a way (and this behavior of nine cases out of a hundred is typical for ladies) can reach infinity. If you yourself begin to try and get out of the state of depression, it will necessarily immediately drive you back, remembering how bad things should be and what terrible and senseless life you have now. So that the situation is better, stay away from such people. A normal friend who really wants to support, will never do that. He will make you cry, he will make himself pull himself together and will stop such conversations between you and the society in which you are. So if you really do not want to suffer for the rest of your life and want to cope with your state, be sure to try to communicate as much as possible with a person who can really support you. For such a person, you should not be a victim, over which you need to shake and cry with her. On the contrary, he will always try to remind you that you - a strong person will correct the situation. For many people, such a man becomes a husband. But if it is not so - it's okay. The main thing is that he does not pressure you and he does not turn into a dull, eternally depressed person. And support can be obtained from mother, close friend, sister. The main thing is that this person knows you very well and needs to be told to support, set you up for good and do not let him get unstuck. If you constantly communicate with such a person, in time you will notice that it really becomes easier. And in many respects it will be his merit, because he will force you to pull yourself together, change the situation, do something, and not sizzle at home, suffering and hating yourself for something that you are absolutely not guilty of.
They do not only suffer from God
If you really want to be so much a mother, then, first of all, you need a child whom you will love. Of course, giving birth to your own is perfect, but if there is no such possibility, you can always save someone's life. Go to the orphanage. And just do not need to listen to those who say: "Oh, it's not known whose child, and suddenly the genes are bad, but suddenly he grows up a little fellow or a moral monster." Genes - a thing quite unpredictable. Even in your family somewhere there were necessarily the same alcoholics. And there is a possibility that they will be passed on to your own child in six generations. Therefore, one should not pay attention to such nonsense. Even a hereditary alcoholic can grow a normal child, if you put the right values in him, teach him not to make mistakes and justly refer to situations and others. Therefore, do not be afraid of what evil tongues are telling you. And do not be confused by the fact that a child may not be like Navas. Over time, he will overtake your habits, words, gestures and looking at him, no one will doubt that this is your son or daughter. Remember always that children become relatives not because we gave birth to them, but because we love them and invest ourselves and our soul in them. So do not suffer.