If a man and a woman hate each other, then most likely there was love between them, because there is no hate without love and vice versa. However, if love can take from nowhere - at first sight, then with hatred it's not like that. By the way, immediately I want to note that love and hatred are not opposites, the opposite of these two feelings is indifference. That is, when we simply do not care about how a person leads, and what happens in his life. A woman whom a particular man is not interested in will never hate him, and the same with a man who does not like a particular girl.
People are by nature "programmed" to treat those who are ill, with pity and compassion, but to those who have everything well, who have something that we can not get - with hatred and envy. If a man and a woman hate each other, the reason for this may be jealousy, parting, in short, comes from a love that the parties themselves may not recognize. But even the feelings that we ourselves are trying to kill ourselves, still undermine us from within, without being able to escape from the heart. And now imagine a situation in which a girl is in love with a guy, but for some reason he can not admit it, and the guy is in love with the same girl, but, again, for some reason can not make a step forward. And while in public they communicate, like friends or good acquaintances. But here comes the time in which one of this couple is tired of waiting, and starts a novel. Suppose that in our situation the guy found another girl. And then the one who loves him, begins to hate a new, naturally, passion, and the youngest person. The guy is feeling a sense of antipathy because the girl, sorry, "frostbitten," and now treats him like a sworn enemy.
"If anyone imagines that the object he loves is with someone in the same or even closer relationship of friendship, which he owned them alone, then he is seized by hatred for the object they love and envy for this other ..." - wrote when It's Spinoza. To be clearer, I will bring the situation: you meet with a guy, but you part, and he leaves for another. You think that the one, the other, now kisses and hugs him, as you once embraced. Naturally, you are uncomfortable with such feelings, and in your heart, hatred of the former and envy - to his real girlfriend wakes up. And the stronger this hatred, the stronger you love this person. These feelings are quite natural and justified, so do not be ashamed of them, if, God forbid, this situation really happened to you. Such a blow is hard, but life continues, and hatred and envy will pass, most importantly, do not get hung up on them and annoy the offenders, but try to build new relationships with a person who will really be worthy of you. Because everything bad, in the end, returns to us.
There can be situations in which you love, but for some reason you think that a man hates you. Do you know what you will feel? Surprisingly, then you will both love and hate at the same time. In such cases, you should get in touch with the lover and find out for sure that he is testing you. Perhaps it will be embarrassing for you, but believe me, it's much better and more fleeting than nerve-racking, while feeling both love and anger.
We hate more if we are hated, and treated with love. When, suppose a man hates a woman and a woman knows about it, then she begins to get angry with him even more, and vice versa. But, as is known, from love to hatred one step, and often people who long tolerated each other could not, announce to everyone about their wedding. And this kind of love, emerging from mutual hatred, in most cases is much stronger than if there was no terrible antipathy at all. In such relations, passion usually rages, they are a bit unpredictable, but bright, surprisingly and envious to others.
You know, love and hate are very controversial feelings, but you can figure it out only by yourself. To be honest, I personally do not really like the word "hate", because I have it associated with evil, or something. It is necessary to be an altruist and a humanist, despite the fact that in our time it is difficult. Perhaps you will laugh at me, but I confess - I believe in karma and the fact that in the world it is necessary to do good, only to love everyone and everything around. Then it lives easier, and there are fewer problems. Especially, 2012 is on the nose, you never know what will happen. Well, if you still feel hatred towards a man, then try to switch, give a negative emotion release - go to the gym, shop, do needlework, or even more than that. It's definitely more useful for you than sitting at home and getting angry. And suddenly while you come up with a plan for revenge and grumble, do not notice anything around, next to appear your second half, and you will not notice it?
Negative feelings, first of all, spoil our lives, not allowing us to objectively discuss and perceive what is happening besides us. So be clever, love people, but do not hate, and they will reach out to you.