Of course, you can immediately say that it is worth it, because you like it. But when you connect life with a single parent, you need to think not so much about his feelings as about the child.
That's why some women believe that it's not worth it to meet with fathers alone. Perhaps you will ask: why not, because you love children and are good to them? Of course, loving children is very good. But we also love cats and dogs. That's only if the pet has done something wrong, you can yell at him, let go of the cuff and do not pay attention. With a child, you can not do this. Especially when he is a stranger. Yes, it does not hurt, but it takes more than a month for the guy to completely entrust his child to you. Remember that if a man took on such responsibility as raising a son or daughter, he really loves him and wants to replace his mother with all his strength. Therefore, the guy subconsciously protects the child from those who can offend him.
Of course you think that you are incapable of it, but it seems so only at first sight. Understand that if you plan a serious relationship, then you will need to share responsibility for raising a baby. And this is not easy at all. When a child is two or three years old and has only one parent, the child literally can not live without it. Most likely, unconsciously, he is afraid of being abandoned, because he feels that his family is incomplete. Therefore, it is the pope who is his sole and last resort for him. Of course, small children quickly get used to strangers. And also quickly wean. Therefore, you should be prepared for the fact that in the beginning, at each meeting, the kid will be afraid of you, crying and hiding behind his father. But, when he finally gets attached to you, then in case you and the boy break up, the child will get a new psychological trauma. Never forget that.
Also, it is necessary to realize that a serious relationship with a single father means that you will constantly take an active part in the upbringing of his child. By the way, you no longer have the right to consider a child only "him." Guided by this opinion, women, when they are bored with the responsibility of someone else's baby, begin to tell his father that this is his child, and he must deal with them. So it is impossible to do. If you start dating a guy who has a child, then you take this kid into your life. So think, do you have enough strength and patience to bring up not your own child, but at the same time treat him as if he were your own. Can you not scream at him on every occasion, be patient, wise and prudent. If you feel that you can not cope with this task, how would you not like the guy, it is better not to start a relationship with him. Most likely, they will end anyway badly, inasmuch as a man does not want to tolerate negligence towards his baby and will himself initiate a break. In order not to hurt the psyche of him, himself and the child, it is better to refuse such a relationship.
Problems of a different nature may arise if the child is older. In this case, many children show selfishness and begin to convince the pope that they do not need another's aunt. Therefore, if your boyfriend has such a son or daughter, you should be ready for big portions of negative. Your task will be to win the love and trust of this child. But to do it is not so easy. Remember that you will have to endure and swallow a lot of grievances, restrain yourself, instead of defending your rights. Children who are used to living only with one parent, who, of course, gave them a lot of attention, do not want now dad to pay attention to someone else. Therefore, you have to prove day by day to the child that you deserve the love of his dad and are not going to take anything away from him. Of course, in the end, the child will recognize you, but the path to this result can be much longer than you expect. That is why, it is necessary to adequately assess their strengths, capabilities and patience. You must remember that this boy or girl, in fact, does not want to harm you. Simply, their psychological defense works, and it's not worth blaming the child. If you feel that you can not reconcile with this state of affairs, you will scream and offend the baby, then retreat immediately.
In addition to these two problems with children, there are others who also affect relationships with single fathers. That's why, before you start something serious with this guy, you have to treat yourself pragmatically and realistically. Only in the event that you understand that you are ready to sacrifice the ranks of his child to many than you now have and are not going to retreat, you can start a relationship with such a man. In fact, if you can love his baby, put his soul into it and really consider it your own, then you can become a real happy family, and all the problems that arise at first, then you will remember with a smile.