Men and stress

There is a myth that men are above any emotions. They do not experience because of relationships or partings, almost do not notice the pain, they have a high threshold of sensitivity. By the way, men themselves are not at all against such an opinion of themselves and actively participate in the creation of such myths. In fact, everything is a little different. In your pair, not only do you experience stress due to seemingly trivial things, only some very skillfully hide it.

Struggle for success.
Everything is known that it is important for men to be or at least seem successful. Imagine this situation: your man is an obvious leader or would like to be him, but success is yours only. He has to prove that he is not worse, not only to you, but also to friends, relatives, and, most importantly, to himself. Let's say you started your career at the same time with relatively equal conditions: similar education, equal abilities, ambitions and goals. In a few years you are already a boss, and he is still a modest clerk. A man will experience constant stress, trying to keep up with you, he will see grins even where they are not, jealous of you and to your success, and to other more successful men. In fact, such couples experience a change in gender roles, where the leader is forever or temporarily a woman.
If you value your man, try to make his life a little easier, because how much you behave with him, much depends on your relationship. If he is jealous of his colleagues, do not hide them. For example, invite your man to the office, where he can make sure that, despite your success, he does not have worthy opponents. Doing him compliments, pay more attention not to human, but professional qualities. Praise is not beauty and strength, but intelligence, the ability to strategically think, foresight. But do not flatter it, it will be immediately noticeable. Be proud of him, and let him hear it as often as he would like.

Fight for the "medal".
In most cases, your beloved man is far from the first, and he knows this very well. Despite the fact that he says that he adheres to free views and has nothing against it, that before you had some experience in the relationship, this does not mean at all that he is not jealous. A man is endowed with a huge number of fears and complexes, which we can not even guess about. He constantly compares himself with those who have been with you before, and these comparisons are rarely in his favor. A man wants to be the first and the best, but his fantasy gives birth to the sexual giants that surrounded you in the past.
Protect him from unnecessary worries. Do not answer provocative questions, do not provoke him to doubt that he is really the best that was with you. Even if this is not so. In order to pass jealousy, it is enough to convince him that you are not getting pleasure from the size, technique or duration, but only from the fact that it is he who does it. This will help him to believe in himself.

Fighting ghosts.
The relationship that you had before your man, this is not only an occasion for doubts in bed. You inevitably mention the former - someone was too bad, someone too good, someone threw you, someone you. Your man is seething with rage, then burns with jealousy or envy. And he always doubts whether you really love him very much, do not you think something like what you are thinking about the loser Vasya or the womanizer Petya?
First, stop such conversations once and for all. If you need to discuss something, decide for yourself - talk to your girlfriend or psychologist. To begin with, you yourself must completely close the door behind your past relationship. If questions and conversations arise, confidently say that everything that was in the past does not deserve any attention. Convince a man that you are in love with him and happy.

The struggle for the right to privacy.
Did not you notice that men very rarely share their experiences with anyone else? And, maybe you already managed to notice that your long telephone conversations or chatter with girlfriends in the kitchen, too, do not bring a man pleasure? He simply does not understand why to dedicate to the most intimate questions of your personal life of strangers. This is for you, Lena or Marina - the best friends from the nursery, but for him this is the usual gossip. In addition, men are always afraid that in these conversations will not be discussed the most pleasant of their qualities, all the failures and mistakes.
First, do not hide from your girlfriends your relationship, otherwise they will try to get information themselves, which can lead to the most unexpected consequences. But do not talk too much, because any information can be used against you. Speak only what you would not be ashamed to hear from others.

Relations are always labor. It turns out that not we alone can be afraid, jealous, envious or offended. Take care of your man, because sometimes they really are so weak and in great need of our protection and care.