In this publication, we want to touch on the general psychology of relations between a man and a woman, humiliation in general. This is the problem of our society, which each of us can face.
Types of humiliation over a woman .
Humiliation is a form of violence that involves constant insults that affect a person's dignity, bans on a normal lifestyle (work, socializing with friends and so on), financial pressure, intimidation and moral pressure on a person. Unfortunately, with this phenomenon all social versts of the population are colliding, regardless of the level of income or status in the society.
Portrait of a humiliated victim .
Women who are constantly subjected to humiliation, most often have a markedly low self-esteem, are very imaginary, restless and insecure. Such a woman always tries to justify herself, constantly feeling her guilt. And what is most terrible, most women who find themselves in such a situation tend to believe that no one can help them, and they themselves take humiliation as a punishment for their so-called "negligence". And in general, the woman herself begins to think about the demeaning role of the weaker sex not only in the family between a man and a woman, but also in society as a whole.
Portrait of a man capable of humiliating a woman .
This is most often a man - an aggressor, who, from childhood, himself was repeatedly humiliated. This person suffers from low self-esteem (and thus tries to raise it), has many complexes, is constantly free to blame someone for any situation. It happens that such people are humiliated completely unconsciously. In public, these men, as a rule, in good standing and how they conduct themselves tet-a-tet with his wife, very few people know. Such a lad is always free to ask for forgiveness after the deed and, thus, easily enters into the trust. This is the psychology of the relationship between the aggressor male and the female victim. It is for this reason that many women, forgiving their husband, again "step on the same rake".
Humiliation and attendant factors .
The general characteristic of such a concept as "humiliation in the family" carries a very complex psychological basis for the relationship of the husband with his wife. Humiliation, as a clear manifestation of cruelty, can arise in any family, and this will not at all depend on its social status. Victims of this situation are often women themselves, who at an early stage allow the man to behave this way. And this is at a time when you can still avoid such a relationship. But if you have already admitted this attitude to yourself, it still does not give the right to a man to behave this way.
The psychology of many women is designed in such a way that they intend to keep silent for many years about everything that happens to them without taking out "garbage from the hut." Man, this "silence" is perceived as a signal of permissiveness and a guarantee that the woman will endure everything and once again forgive him. But, as you know, such a relationship between people does not lead to a good one. In this situation, the best solution is to part ways, but women tend to forgive their "faithful" again and again. And all this, as psychology says, because of the obsessive fear of a lady to remain alone. In addition, financial dependence on a man, a housing issue and children, on which the divorce of parents can adversely affect, emerges. Also here you can safely refer the love and affection of a woman to a man. Among other things, the woman's insecurity in herself leads to a feeling of guilt before a man and his behavior is regarded as deserved.
How to deal with humiliation in the family ?
How, after all, to overcome humiliation in the family, if you are afraid that, if you tell about your problems, will they consider you a weak person? It is always necessary to remember that a man who degrades a woman (whether in public or in the family) is not a man. First of all, such a person can not control himself, and has many psychological complexes. Without looking back, throw such a man. Well, if you still want to maintain a relationship between you, then you need to try to talk to a man and explain to him that he is wrong. You should also avoid all situations that can cause him to humiliate you. Remember that under these conditions you are a lifeguard for yourself. Ask a psychologist or, better still, go with your companion to see him. Read books on "psychology and humiliation" and learn how to control the situation with their help. By the way, there are a lot of such books and they carry very valuable and instructive information.
Well, if you still came to the decision that you should part, you can apply to special trust services, where you will be able to give valuable advice on how to do this painlessly for you. Never threaten a man that throw him. This you can provoke him into more decisive actions. Tell your family about this, which must certainly support you and protect you at this moment.
Remember that humiliation is one of the forms of violence. Therefore, all verbal, moral, physical coercion and insults should not intimidate you and drive you into a "blind corner". After all, verbal humiliation can always turn into beatings, and this is much worse. So do not drive to such extremes and always remain a strong and strong-willed woman who, for her own well-being, is ready to overcome everything and radically change her life.