In the minds of most of us, a stereotype is laid down, according to which every woman who has reached adulthood dreams of becoming a married woman, but men, on the contrary, try to avoid marriage ties with all their might. In fact, the situation is not so trivial and as practice shows, there are a huge number of girls who are quite well living in a civil marriage or not at all without a husband. In the list of desired events, such women do not have a wedding with a white dress, a black limousine, a registry office and a ring on an unnamed finger. Yes, yes, and even the opportunity to get so desired for many a stamp in the passport does not please them.
What is the reason for the fact that girls develop a similar point of view about marriage to the family and everything that follows from this? Let's try to understand why some girls do not want to marry.
The reasons why girls "bachelor" with pleasure
It turns out that the reasons why some girls are not slow to bind themselves by marriage are not so few.
1. Away from stereotypes
It turns out that some ladies are not in a hurry to get married because they do not want to see a loved one near them - they do not agree to try the whole spectrum of stereotypes associated with traditional wedding. It's about a gorgeous white dress, a mass of guests, a banquet hall and observance of old traditions , such as, for example, washing the legs of a mother-in-law, or tying a platter on the head of the bride, who has now become a wife.
Opponents of such a wedding are happy to say their "yes" in a more romantic atmosphere, and they do not care whether they come to the registrar in jeans, or they will arrange an out-of-town wedding ceremony on their beach. The main thing is that in order to celebrate were the closest people, which, by definition, can not be a lot.
2. Uncertainty about the correctness of their choice
There are also girls who are not completely sure of their partners. They can meet with them for several years, live in a civil marriage, but the formal formalization of the relationship is unresolved.
In the event that particularly interested friends, acquaintances and relatives pester them with questions, the ladies who find themselves in such a situation often laugh at what they say is not so bad and why they should spoil a clean passport with some kind of seal.
As practice shows, such pairs after a certain period of time still disintegrate. And we can not say that there was love between the partners: feelings existed, but for a woman to decide to trust herself and her future children to this particular man, alas, one love is not enough.
3. Negative parenting experience
Parents divorced when their daughter was two years old, father is not associated with a child who has already become an adult. The father abuses alcohol, and from time to time raises his hand to his mother. As a result, a woman from a young age instills in her child a stereotype in which all muzhiks are compared to marmariants, or even more seditious statements are made. Naturally, the influence of the family on the child is immense, and if he does not see before himself a positive example of communication between a man and a woman, the idea that marriage is nothing more than the union of two people in which they torment each other and at the same time children is sitting in the subconscious.
Another option that can instill in the girl's head negative thoughts about marriage is the parent family, in which everyone lives for himself, the mother and father do not scandal, but still they do not practically talk with each other, they do not go into the affairs of their second half. And as a result: the child does not understand whether there is love, or even affection between parents.
Naturally, the girl, seeing in front of such a model of relations, is afraid to repeat the fate of her mother and is not in a hurry to get married.
4. And without a husband is good
There is an interlayer of the fair sex, confident that the mission of the man is only to be the continuer of the family, and the woman is by no means an incubator capable of bearing the heir.
These ladies tend to be as independent as possible, try to build a career on their own, develop in all respects, earning at least men. Moreover, they clearly say that it is more expensive to agree to a marriage with a non-ideal representative of the stronger sex, they are ready to give birth and raise a child on their own, without being dependent on anyone at all.
5. Riot in the blood
Probably, every girl who has not married before the age of 20-22 years is periodically attacked by her elder relatives. Moreover, the frequency increases with the age of unmarried women. The essence of attacks is as follows: everyone wants to know when they will be invited to the wedding, parents passionately dream of grasping their grandchildren, and their mother's colleagues at work with all their might try to reduce them to their own prospective sons.
Women react to such attacks in different ways: someone laughs, others fall into a stupor, some directly answer that they will marry only at will and when the time comes. The separate representatives of the fair sex are simply ready to explode with sleep, hearing such questions in their address. Brought out of a delicate situation, they are ready to at least rude "well-wishers", but as a maximum, confuse them, "in your ear" confessing their allegedly unconventional orientation.
6. Family is a routine and nothing interesting
Individual women who are not in a hurry to marry are sure that their married life will turn them from beautiful ladies who have a lot of time to do their own business, to always tired housekeepers, for whom the world around has closed on kitchen utensils, washing machines and other "charms" life.
In order to understand where the legs of this stereotype grow, do not go far: look at your moms and grandmothers, who more often than not forgot about their feminine attractiveness, turning into "keeper of the hearth", on whose shoulders the care of the house and households was completely covered. Turning to such a stalked woman, young girls understand that they would not want to be in their shoes, and all the forces are trying to push back the moment of marriage.
7. I will not sacrifice myself for anything.
This cause of unwillingness to go to the registrar is voiced by women who are trying to reach certain career heights. They believe that the caretaker and the family are incompatible things, and therefore one will have to give up something.
Perhaps in some families this is what is happening, but to the greatest extent every careerist should be ready at the very least to claim their rights.
8. Unsuccessful relations behind your back
Often, even a hint of marriage is afraid of girls who have been once in official relations, which brought them only pain and pain. Yes, such women, having failed, meet with men and even agree to a civil marriage, but the stamp in their passport is frightening. Moreover, even the conversation about marriage can cause them an extremely negative reaction.
It is clear why this happens: the girls do not want to enter the same river twice, believing that a new man can be nothing better than the first husband.
If you are not in a hurry to get married, try to analyze yourself, and, perhaps, several more points will be added to this article.