Not many of them can do without the caress, care and love of their mother. After all, they are still very small and defenseless. Imagine how these cubs feel, how they are still cold and scared.
And now let's turn to ours, into the human world. But we will not address the child's feelings, but let's take an adult. And from our side it will be wrong to say "man," because we will not talk about the person as a whole, but about the woman.
Let's go back a bit when we imagined how the cub feels. And now imagine that these feelings are in a woman. But such feelings fill it not always, but only in certain periods. For example, you can take a situation where a woman threw her favorite person. This is the moment when she feels like a small child. What are we leading to? And here's what. When a man fundamentally ignores a woman, then she experiences exactly the same feelings.
And at this moment the girl understands that everything can end right now, and she will remain alone. Women are very frightened. The question "How can a woman be heard by a man? "Sounds on all women's forums, and it's not strange. But it can be noted that only 80% of these messages, they really have any meaning.
Women do not understand that a man - he does not like being distracted. Let's imagine this situation now. You yourself sit on the couch and watch your favorite TV show. Now a very interesting moment, which solves everything. And then your husband comes to you and begins to talk with you on some serious topic. You are madly angry with him, scream, but you will think to yourself that you will discuss this later. But not everything is as simple as it seems at first glance. The brain is an amazing part of our body, which remembers everything, despite our desire. In the brain, the fact that it irritated you, and you did not like this question, will certainly be postponed. That is, the brain sets an automatic command for annoyance when asking this question. You can even remember the well-known movie "Click". Do you remember how the console started rewinding the working time itself, sex, dinner at the family table and other moments? Here everything is just as similar, that's just the principle of the work is a bit different.
After reading this paragraph, you should have a small picture in your head, more precisely the main rule, which should not be neglected. To a woman to be heard by a man, you need to talk with him on the right topic at the moment when the man is completely free, and you will not distract him. A man will definitely continue to talk with you if this topic is important.
Do not forget that one superfluous word can completely change the whole situation. Let's go back to watching the TV show, but this time you will not watch TV, but your husband, and not a TV show, but football, which is quite logical, although there are also husbands who do not like football. So, he looks at football, and then you ask him: "My dear, take out the garbage, please." Quite a common phrase, and they say it that way. Now we will figure out what is wrong here.
So, he sits to himself, and then his wife: "Dear, take out, please, garbage." What kind of reaction will this phrase from her husband? Everyone has different ways ... someone will shout: "Take it out! ", And someone:" Well loved! ". You just do not be surprised that we give such primitive examples, if we here brought more serious conversations - nothing would have changed, you would just have become harder to understand this. So, back to our topic.
It would seem that if the husband answered as it sounds in the second variant, then there are no problems between you, but it was not there. You will not believe how silly it would sound, but the first option in this situation will be better, if you do not take into account the fact that in the second situation the husband can be really sincere. But the probability of this is only 10%. A woman to be heard by a man who is always sincere with her is very easy. Therefore, this type of men here is not affected.
So, roughly responding, the man's brain does not think to remember this moment, and the wife will be able to talk with him on this topic at any time. And here is the second case .... Everything is much more complicated than it seems. He will gradually remember all this, accumulate in himself this anger, well, one day he will explode. And then your marriage can just disintegrate.
Try to ask your lover so that it does not indicate the current time. That is: "Dear, take out, please, garbage when you are free." You must understand that no matter how you ask, without shouting, the husband can not take out the garbage. But if you told him that when he is free, he will do it. He will begin to gnaw his conscience, which he promised and did not, he will begin to pity you. This is the most profitable option for you. And it is the phrase "when you are free" removes irritability and increases the chances that he will want with you, then, talk about it.
How can a woman be heard by a man, if he does not want to discuss this topic, no matter what? Here you can take yourself with him, as with a child. Try to play a game with him, where you can discuss the topic you need. Also, you can try to reward him with something valuable for the conversation, and let it not be candy, it is better to ask him what he would like to receive in return. And immediately warn, do not be angry with him, if he says that he wants sex, it is justified, because he behaves like a child. If you do not want to fulfill his desire, then you can get rid of it, but do not forget that the advantage is still on his side.
These are the basic rules that should be followed. Strange as it may seem, the man's brain thinks on this principle. Try to change your speech in his favor, and then he will hear you.