Many parents turn to a psychologist with the question: why is the child afraid of other children? In fact, this problem does not arise from scratch. Initially every healthy child is open for communication. However, the world of children is different from the adult world. And if your baby is afraid, then there is a reason for that. Most often, a child will start to fear other children if he has received negative experience in communication.
The fact is that at a young age, children do not yet have a sufficiently developed system of values. Therefore, when a child begins to communicate with peers, he believes that everyone will love him, but at the same time he rarely thinks about his own behavior. When you notice that the child is afraid of other children, it means that they offended him, and now he does not know how to act. Accordingly, he does not manage to solve problems correctly, because with him this has not happened before, he is frightened by the unknown.
How to overcome fear?
In order to combat childish fear, parents should understand that this is not a trifle or stupidity. At this age, babies are extremely sensitive. The attitude of other people is very important for them at this age. Therefore, if you can not cope with the fear of communication with a child, then he can grow up unsociable and insecure. Judge for yourself, because for a baby a blow from another child or taking the toy away is a real shock, because he is not at all used to that in the family. Therefore, in the first place, parents should show the child that he has nothing to fear, because you can always help him. But here it is immediately worth noting: never start to solve conflicts instead of a child. If you constantly go to the parents of other children and complain, the kid will never learn to deal with his problems on his own. Even when he grows up, his mind will already have a clearly formed feeling of being unfit for solving any conflicts. Therefore, you must show the child the options for solving the problem, but you can take direct participation in this parent only as a last resort.
For example, if your child has another baby who wants to take the toy without demand, ask him: "Did you ask permission?" In this case, the children either leave or start talking to your child. Of course, the second option is much better, as the dialogue begins between the children. By the way, if your child refuses to give a toy, you do not need to put pressure on him. He has every right to both resolve and not allow. This should be understood by you and other children. However, one can ask why he does not want to give a toy and depending on his answers, to convince him to play other children or to agree with the opinion of his child. Remember that defending your interests and being greedy is a completely different thing.
Feeling of support from parents
When a child is small, he must always feel support from his parents. Especially in the case when other children try to beat him. By the way, many ask about whether the child should be taught to "give change". In fact, this question can not be answered unequivocally, because if a child is weaker than his opponent, he will eventually be a loser. But on the other hand, it is also impossible to remain silent and not resist. Therefore, when the child is still very young (he is less than three years old), after seeing that they beat him, parents should immediately stop the fight and tell other children that this can not be done. When children grow older, you can give them to various sports sections. This is especially true of boys. In this case, the child will always be able to stand up for himself. However, parents should show him that before the assault can be reached only as a last resort. Let your son or daughter know that most often, conflicts can be solved constructively, with the help of words, humor of irony and sarcasm. Well, while the child is small, just show him that you are always on his side, support and understand, so there is nothing to be afraid of. If he feels confident that his parents will always be able to help him, he will grow up without complexes and feelings of inferiority.