Unrequited love: looking for advantages in a desperate situation

Unrequited love is quite common. Many women around the world suffer from a lack of reciprocity. In adolescence, with unrequited love, there is, probably, everyone. At the age of twenty this also sometimes occurs and is considered more a misunderstanding than a serious problem. But the emergence of this situation after twenty-five years is quite surprising. Women of this age group already have some experience in dealing with men, they know which type is right for them, and which one should be avoided. And still the heart will not order - the girl sometimes falls in love with someone who does not even look in her direction.
Psychologists have several points of view on the occurrence of such situations:

1. Man has never grasped the secret of successful relationships. There can be many reasons for this: trauma from former love, divorce of parents, etc. On the one hand, the soul requires love, and on the other - there is no idea of ​​how it should be built. Therefore, a woman finds an inaccessible object, which you can simply dream about and not build any relationship.
2. Fear of responsibility. The woman tries to escape from the relationship, because she is afraid of responsibility, which will lie on her fragile shoulders.
3. Fear of being abandoned. Once having experienced the pain of breaking up a relationship, it is very difficult for a woman to re-open her heart for a man.
4. Desire to be like everyone else. Friends tell each other the stories connected with their happy personal life. For a woman who is deprived of such joy, to create for herself an inaccessible object - an occasion to boast of a personal life, which, in fact, she is deprived.

It is possible that there is a so-called coincidence of circumstances. A man of dreams simply did not see your ideal in you. In this case, do not worry and consider the situation only from a negative point of view. Thought is material, therefore in all it is necessary to look for the positive sides.

So, what positive aspects can be in unrequited love :

• You are capable of high feelings, and this is a rarity in the modern world;
• Undivided love will help you figure out what you really expect from love;
• It's no secret that love makes a woman "shine". Happiness on your face will be noticed by other men;
• Love is a powerful stimulus for physical and spiritual self-improvement. Physical self-improvement includes work on the body, and spiritual - creative development (writing poems, cooking new delicious dishes, etc.);
• Experiences caused by lack of reciprocity, contribute to rapid weight loss;
• Ahead, sooner or later, is waiting for a meeting with the only one that can rightfully occupy an important place in your life.
• It's nice to realize that a loved one is healthy and happy, even if not in a relationship with you;
• Your head is not occupied with constant thoughts about your loved one, so there is time to tackle career questions and show the unreachable man what mistake he made without reciprocating you;
• You do not need to look for ways to adjust to the requirements and whims of a loved one and suffer a lot of his disadvantages;
• You can attend all the activities that you want and do not limit meetings with friends;
• There is no need to limit yourself to flirting with men. This has a very positive effect on the health of women;
• If it's hard to fall asleep, you can always dream about the object of your desires, in particular about how your beautiful relationships could start and develop. Dreams help a woman rejoice at what in real life is most likely impossible;
• This situation will allow you to learn how to love without the desire to get something in return, but simply because the person you love is nearby;
• Perhaps unrequited love can push you to some changes in character and behavior that will benefit future relationships.