So she came ... the situation, about which films are made, compose anecdotes and spread rumors. "She is poor, poor! Her husband is walking, but she does not know! "- you hear behind your back the compassionate voice of neighbors who are sure that you are the holy simplicity that a husband deceives. And you have long been not "simplicity", and the fact that your spouse has a mistress, for you is no secret. Although, when it was a secret, it was easier. What you do not know does not exist. But now you know, and, it turns out, to face the dilemma of "leaving or staying" is even more difficult than reconciling with the realization that a beloved husband is changing. So go away or stay? And maybe, nevertheless, there is a painless way for the family to get rid of a mistress, and at the same time from an insoluble dilemma?
The art of war with your mistress
Such a method is, says the candidate of psychological sciences, TV presenter, writer and just a wise woman Larissa Renard. She developed her own practical guide to eliminate the rival and return the spouse to the bosom of the family according to his own free will. The workshop has been tested by thousands of women around the world and has many positive feedback and sincere thanks for preserving the family. Larissa does not promise that it will be easy. As they say, à la guerre comme à la guerre. It takes a lot of strength, patience and wisdom. However, this is much easier than collecting the broken heart and self-esteem.
- Relief from grievances
Do you remember the day when they were consecrated into the secret of her husband and took the official place in the love triangle - husband, his mistress and you? Of course, remember! And hardly one day you will forget the shock, the inner protest and disagreement with this state of affairs. Larissa Renard explains that, as a rule, this condition lasts from 3 to 7 days, and is the most dangerous in this whole "war", as it can be lost without even starting a battle. The tactic should be as follows:
- Take a timeout. Try to leave for a few days, under a plausible pretext, from the common space with your husband - to your mother, friend, to the dacha. You will need a few days to properly cry out, get naughty, regret yourself unhappy and allow the psyche to free itself from acute resentment and aggression.
- Use the effective practice of "Laughter and Tears." Alternate for half an hour:
- tears with loud lamentations and accusations;
- entering into rest;
- laughter (dances, funny songs).
Even laughter through force is able to free from the desire to destroy and destroy. - Do the exercise "Emancipation from resentment." Recognize the mistakes you made in the relationship, but realize that the reason is not just you. Always both are to blame. The husband goes to another not because you are ugly, stupid or non-sexual. Roots are always much deeper. Will seek. In the meantime, return to the family.
- Reinforced concrete patience
And it's not in a figurative sense. To keep the impeccable condition of a caring wife and hostess with all the understanding of the situation, it will take nerves of steel and 2-3 months of time. During this period, refrain from making categorical and harsh decisions. Do not go down to spyware and do not monitor your husband's phone and mail. Devote this time to renewal: coziness in the house, taste in dishes, beauty in itself. Do not despair if the situation only worsens and your husband will "thank" your criticism. React to this not with resentment, but with attention. Turn into the eyes and ears. All your "shortcomings" mean the dignity of your opponent. Now you will know for sure why he is running to his mistress. Analyze, remember and draw conclusions, but do not do it yourself. Try to be impartial. "What if he leaves?" - you are concerned. Hardly. Men are not as determined as you think. Well-adjusted household, property, children, reputation are often strong anchors. The main thing in this period is not to make hysterics and not to provoke him to collect things on emotions. Do not turn the house into a battlefield. It is much easier to leave ruins and obtain a justified refugee status. Better give your mind "food" on the topic: do you need such a husband? Maybe it's time for you to start a lover, or even a better husband? If not, continue to suffer, and trust the proven technique.
- Changes
Include in yourself an enthusiastic girl, which you were at the stage of the candy-bouquet period with your husband:
- Delight. Only admire sincerely. Anyone, even the most unworthy person, has abilities and skills that you can admire. Find them.
- Attention. Do not take away from the husband the customary for him convenience: ironed shirts, breakfast or a joint view of hockey. Continue to be attentive to his needs.
- Thanks. Be thankful to your husband. No matter how your future has developed, you have a common past, a personal story, in which there was much happiness. Be grateful for it and are grateful for everything that, despite the new love, continues to do for your family.
- Mistress
Mistresses are all called predators. They are unpredictable, cunning, inventive, unrestrained, sensual and desirable. Perhaps you have kept this bar for a long time in family relations, but the notorious habit has interfered, and romance has eaten life. Have to return to the origins. Become again the mistress of her husband. Increase your love qualifications and catch up. Learn sexual techniques, pump up intimate muscles, show creativity. Skilled sex is the most powerful anchor that keeps men. Moreover, you can use it to visually demonstrate to the rival who the true "mistress" of this man is: leave during sex on the back of the husband your "mark" in the form of scratches. Tell her husband that accidentally happened, because he was great!
- Queen
You did everything that depended on you. Now, take the waiting royal position and mentally release your husband. He is a free man, but you also value yourself and your freedom. If the husband still continues to run "left", then it's time to put it before the choice: she or I (children, apartment, business, etc.). In 95% of cases, men remained in the family with an updated wife. If your husband does not stay, release him in peace and give yourself a chance to meet that man who will be able to make you happy.