In fact, in revenge to the former guy, the councils and its ultimate goals, there is nothing good. Often this destructive feeling just lives in our heart and does not generate any real products. We can fantasize every time before going to bed about how you happily take revenge on your ex-boyfriend, how he goes crazy with jealousy, how he tries to get you back. In these thoughts, you simply trample down his heart and, laughing gaily, go to meet the new happiness. Revenge becomes all-consuming.
And then you can get scared, think about what an ardent desire to avenge yourself is a sign of some kind of mental disorder. Far from it, this feeling is characteristic of all abandoned and deceived people. Only here not at all it really pours out in any acts. Usually the feeling of revenge passes quickly enough, especially if you are able to take yourself in hand and let go of the past, leave it behind and no longer think about what it was. Revenge of the former guy is reduced to the fact that you just forget it, and what can be more painful than indifference, real, and not ostentatious? But there is another category of girls - revenge for them - a feeling that simply requires realization, you can not eat peacefully, can not sleep at night, so burning will be the need to cause the former guy a pain. We will give you useful advice, the purpose of which will be to satisfy this one's need.
First, do not rush headlong into the swirl of revenge at once, as soon as the former guy became ex and left your life. Resentment is still too great, you can hurry, do not think and mess things up, that it will only be worse for you. Therefore, try to cool down, reflect on the situation.
Maybe your boyfriend did not just leave you? After all, such a decision, which summed up your relationship, could be provoked by your behavior. You were too categorical, did not want to make concessions, without which not one pair does not manage. You were constantly jealous of every girl he met and "sawed" for looking left and right. Maybe even behaved so that he was just ashamed to be with you? Then what revenge can we talk about? Perhaps you just got what you deserve? Do not be offended after these words, but it happens.
However, sometimes life puts us in such unpleasant situations when, indeed, without a sense of revenge can not do, and it gnaws and corrodes you more and more every day, demanding retaliation. Then read our advice and decide - how do you do in this particular case (and in fact cases are different, and revenge can directly depend on the situation).
You know, it's not for nothing that they say that indifference strikes much more painfully than demonstrative aggression and the desire to harm, which is noticeable to the naked eye. Such is human nature - even when we part with someone, during a certain time period we want to see. What is difficult for this person without us is difficult. See how he is trying to get us back. What is it for? For self-assertion, for raising self-esteem. After all, for sure, and you have often experienced this self-satisfied sense of ownership, watching how your ex-boyfriend can not forget you and arrange your personal life? In men, this feeling is even more developed, they just need to see the torments of the former.
Therefore, your first task is not to show the former guy his feelings, his confusion and regret. Moreover, it is not desirable to openly demonstrate your aggressive attitude towards him. Anger is the first sign that you are not indifferent to it. And this, again, is very flattering his vanity. And if you decide to take revenge, do not let him console yourself with your anger. Passing by, do not look down, do not bite and do not try to make an indifferent look - all these pathetic attempts will give you away. Better openly look into his eyes, radiantly smile at who you are with, try to become the brightest and happiest at this moment. Throw him slightly careless: "Hello!" And, without waiting for an answer, go ahead, radiating all the same fluids of good mood. We are sure that he will be very affected by your reaction. Perhaps he will even stand, as if stunned, and look after you with surprise. And one more your task is not to turn back in any way, as if you would not like to see what impression you made on him with such unusual behavior for him. Let it be better if someone from your friends turns around, although it is better not to do this.
Especially sweet is revenge when, in the eyes of an ex-boyfriend, you read that he is jealous, that he regrets that he made you suffer. And this can be achieved only in one way. Find yourself another guy. And try to make it much more attractive than the former. It should be cool (according to the concepts of today's youth), it's very good if the one who threw you, will know about the authority of the new boyfriend. And it is quite excellent if the girls from his new environment will also fall for your knight, and loudly envy your happiness.
Sometimes, in order to satisfy a gnawing vengeance, one must do something completely dirty and disgusting. Although we are sure that such petty mucks - this is not an occupation for a real woman. But if you feel that without this you can not let go of the situation and continue to live it day in and day out - well, then try to make a minor trouble. For example, give his gifts to friends, from whom he can see them. Well, if it's expensive clothes or jewelry. In this case, a friend even can with your ex-boyfriend say that you were going to throw it away, but changed your mind and gave it to her. Thus, you will show him that you do not care about him and all his presents.
And in general, of course, the best thing is not to let vengeance into your heart. This feeling will make you callous, take away the mind, take thought. You will live in the past, losing the present, in order to make the guy bad. But who does not know that evil always comes back to him who did it.
You need to be able to forget about the past and those people who hurt you. Such people do not cost a piece of your memory, your heart. Release the offender - and go to a bright future full of love and kindness.