In order to save a loved one from his problem, it is necessary to understand what is its root. You can get rid of the complex only if you know what became its original cause. In fact, it is possible to easily relieve a loved one of his insecurity in himself, just need to find an approach and not exacerbate the situation.
So, how to get rid of a loved one from an inferiority complex? Let's try to understand this situation and understand what caused the complex? Most often, the problems of each person originate in his childhood. In order to save the guy from problems, it is necessary to know well how he grew up and what his relationships were in the family and with his peers. Your lover may have unspoken anger and resentment towards his parents. It is this in half the cases that causes feelings of inferiority. This situation occurs when a child is raised in an incomplete family or grows up with a grandparent. We all understand that children's society can sometimes be even more cruel than the society of adults. Children do not always think about their words. If, for example, a guy does not have a dad or was not raised by his mother, then the problems may be caused by questions asked by other children: where is your father? And where is your mother? And why does your mother not love you?
Of course, the reasons for this behavior in the parents of a young person can be very diverse, as justified, and not. But often a child feels incomplete, embittered by parents and subconsciously, and then consciously, begins to believe that no one can love him. This is expressed in a behavior that is irritating and disgusting in many people, as well as in a constant desire to show that he is not worthy of you and you simply can not love him. Often, to prove this, the guy does not offend others, but simply behaves extremely unpleasantly. This complex is the hardest to destroy. The fact is that the notion of "I do not like the closest" is very deeply eaten not only in consciousness, but also in the subconscious. And your main task is to prove to the young man: you have something to love. But in this situation, the main thing is not to bend the stick. If you are too cautious of the guy, in the end he will start using you, and this can not be allowed in any case. So just try to show him that he is not indifferent to you, and you are ready to help him in any situation, but at the same time you are not going to solve all his problems. These guys really do not have enough maternal love. Often from a loved one they want tenderness and protection. Try to fill this gap in his soul, but do not turn into a poultry, which blows off a speck of dust. Remember that he is a grown man and he must solve his problems. But he can always come to you for support and be sure that you will not abandon him, help with advice and deed, support and understand in any situation. Such people need to be sure that relatives will always come to the rescue, they will never leave one on one with his problems. By the way, this attitude should not only be for you, but also for his close friends. In the male society it is not customary to take care of each other, but it is absolutely necessary for such people. Therefore, if you are on good terms with his friends, unobtrusively and carefully discuss this situation and ask them to support their friend more and not to beat the sick places, even in jest. If he realizes that he is really appreciated and respected, the problem will gradually disappear.
Also, the inferiority complex can be caused by the misunderstanding and cruelty of peers in childhood and adolescence. Most often this happens in cases where the child is smarter than those with whom he grows alongside, has no bad habits, is engaged in circles and is quite obedient. These complexes are not so easy to consider in adulthood, but then, when you recognize a person better, they manifest themselves in full force. Often such young people try to please others at the same time and at the same time try to show that they are the best. This can be manifested in different ways: broad knowledge in many areas, sports, a sense of humor and much more. At the first acquaintance it's hard to see the complex in the behavior of such a guy, but in time you begin to understand that he literally climbs out of the skin to prove that he is not worse than others. In a very close relationship from time to time, these young people say that they do not believe in themselves and will not achieve anything.
To help such a guy, you need to constantly motivate him to achieve the goals that he can set himself, but he is afraid to go to them. It is not necessary to say that he is the best and ingenious. But you can hint to him that he has enough strength to achieve something and he can use them if he does not fear and believe in himself, as well as in his abilities and abilities. Also, it's worth to carefully remind him that you should not seem better than he is. In a young man there are positive qualities, it is just necessary to develop them and prove their originality not by theatrical unnatural behavior, but by actions. And, of course, the guy should always see support in you. If a person knows that someone sincerely loves him, sooner or later he will be able to love himself and accept what he is, rather than what he would like to be.